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Please enjoy our blog where we have written some of our best advice, helpful tips, and things we ponder. These are all intended to help you have a better and more fulfilling marriage.

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Most Couples Think They Struggle With Communication at Times. Most of Them are Wrong.

Tami and I operate a group counseling practice in Southern California. We are known throughout the area for providing the best and most practical marriage counseling around. We love this reputation. With ten licensed counselors and registered interns on our staff, we collectively see about 100 clients each and every week. All of this gives us some incredible insight into the kinds of things that most couples struggle with. Further, we know what it takes to get these couples back on track when needed…

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​Romantic Love is Great, But it Won’t Last Forever. And That is Good News.

Tami and I have been married for over 32 years and we dated for 4 years before that. Additionally, Tami is a licensed marriage counselor and we have worked with many, many couples together over the years. Add to this the fact that I work in the neurology field and you will agree that together Tami and I have a pretty good grasp on both the psychology and science of relationships. Further, we love to share what we have learned with others just like you. We all know that the early stages of love brings us so much joy. Truth be told, there is a chemical cocktail of oxytocin, dopamine, serotonin….

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​At Some Point, the Majority of Spouses Will Wonder if They Married They Wrong Person.

There is so much wrong with this line of thinking. We are not saying there is something wrong with you, by the way, since this line of thinking is so pervasive in our culture. This thinking will affect us all. So the job falls to us to teach you why this mindset is so flawed. This flawed thinking is based on the notion that there is one, and only one, perfect person for you on this planet. Only one! Remember that there are approximately 7.5 billion people on the planet. This “finding a needle in a haystack” kind of mentality tricks us into believing that when, not if, something feels wrong in our marriage…

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You Think Your Marriage is Safe From an Affair. Here’s Why You're Wrong.

Let me get right to the point. Marriage drift. This is a phrase we use to describe the lack of intentionality in marriage. In your marriage (and most other things in life), you will either be intentional to learn, grow, and improve or you will drift. Think of drifting as what happens when you are in the middle of the ocean in a boat without any power or the means to move yourself anywhere. Think of the movie Cast Away with Tom Hanks. When you are drifting, you will merely end up wherever the forces of nature happen to take you. You will feel utterly powerless…

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You Don’t Process Your Life in a Healthy Way, and it’s Killing You

We recently wrote, “What They Can Never Take Away From Us” which was a very difficult thing for us to write about. We were robbed and some of our most valuable possessions were taken from us. Forever gone. So, we decided to tell our story about what happened. At one point, someone said something like, “Yeah, but why would you force yourself to relive all of that when you can just forget it?” I thought, “Forget it? Really?” Are we, as humans, ever able to willingly just forget anything…

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Most Couples Think They Struggle With Communication at Times. Most of Them are Wrong.

Tami and I operate a group counseling practice in Southern California. We are known throughout the area for providing the best and most practical marriage counseling around. We love this reputation. With ten licensed counselors and registered interns on our staff, we collectively see about 100 clients each and every week. All of this gives us some incredible insight into the kinds of things that most couples struggle with. Further, we know what it takes to get these couples back on track when needed…

READ MORE of the article above…
Comments

​Romantic Love is Great, But it Won’t Last Forever. And That is Good News.

Tami and I have been married for over 32 years and we dated for 4 years before that. Additionally, Tami is a licensed marriage counselor and we have worked with many, many couples together over the years. Add to this the fact that I work in the neurology field and you will agree that together Tami and I have a pretty good grasp on both the psychology and science of relationships. Further, we love to share what we have learned with others just like you. We all know that the early stages of love brings us so much joy. Truth be told, there is a chemical cocktail of oxytocin, dopamine, serotonin….

READ MORE of the article above…
Comments

​At Some Point, the Majority of Spouses Will Wonder if They Married They Wrong Person.

There is so much wrong with this line of thinking. We are not saying there is something wrong with you, by the way, since this line of thinking is so pervasive in our culture. This thinking will affect us all. So the job falls to us to teach you why this mindset is so flawed. This flawed thinking is based on the notion that there is one, and only one, perfect person for you on this planet. Only one! Remember that there are approximately 7.5 billion people on the planet. This “finding a needle in a haystack” kind of mentality tricks us into believing that when, not if, something feels wrong in our marriage…

READ MORE of the article above…
Comments

You Think Your Marriage is Safe From an Affair. Here’s Why You're Wrong.

Let me get right to the point. Marriage drift. This is a phrase we use to describe the lack of intentionality in marriage. In your marriage (and most other things in life), you will either be intentional to learn, grow, and improve or you will drift. Think of drifting as what happens when you are in the middle of the ocean in a boat without any power or the means to move yourself anywhere. Think of the movie Cast Away with Tom Hanks. When you are drifting, you will merely end up wherever the forces of nature happen to take you. You will feel utterly powerless…

READ MORE of the article above…
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You Don’t Process Your Life in a Healthy Way, and it’s Killing You

We recently wrote, “What They Can Never Take Away From Us” which was a very difficult thing for us to write about. We were robbed and some of our most valuable possessions were taken from us. Forever gone. So, we decided to tell our story about what happened. At one point, someone said something like, “Yeah, but why would you force yourself to relive all of that when you can just forget it?” I thought, “Forget it? Really?” Are we, as humans, ever able to willingly just forget anything…

READ MORE of the article above…
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