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The Art of Listening Well - Part 2 of a Series

In part 1 of The Art of Listening Well, we talked about the difference between active and passive listening. If you need to catch up on that part of this conversation, you can do so by clicking this link. In part 2 and beyond, I want to start talking about specific tools that you can use to shore up your listening skills. I call these tools on purpose because once you take hold of the "toolbox full of tools" analogy, you will begin to see just how important they are. In the same way that a mechanic would be lost without his tools, every marriage is destined to be lost at some level without some good tools of their own…

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Is Stress Causing Fights in Your Marriage?

Have you ever had a situation where (in your humble opinion) your spouse was not acting like himself or herself and you just couldn't figure out why? Most of us have–myself included. (While I'm being honest, this has happened to my wife many times as well where I am not being myself!) In your case, were you able understand what was going on, or did you merely "blow it off" like usual? More times than not, this kind of behavior is caused by some type of stress. Read further to discover how to recognize the signs, learn how to respond (without getting in trouble!), and…

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Porn Will Kill Your Marriage From the Inside Out

I hope the title of this article grabbed your full attention, it was meant to. Just like any other addiction (defined below), pornography will change you–slowly at first, until you are a different person than you once were. It kills the former you, and spawns a replacement. A replacement that has less respect for others (including your spouse), is more self-centered, and is further out of control. All the while not even noticing the incremental and detrimental changes that have been taking place. Addiction defined: an addiction is any behavior that you cannot seem to stop or control despite the fact that it is a detriment to yourself or others…

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Learn to Resolve Conflict Better or Avoid it Altogether

[To be honest, I'm not sure anyone could ever avoid conflict completely, but at the very least we can all learn to minimize it.] Why is it that some couples always seem to be happy while other couples seem destined to remain in conflict most of the time? The answer, I think, can be summed up in this – some couples fight fair and some don't. Since we are all going to fight (or disagree) sooner or later, the manner in which we disagree and how we treat each other when we do holds the key here. This will determine whether most fights will last for weeks on end or be resolved and sincerely put behind you in less than a day…

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How to Know if Your Spouse is THE ONE!

This line of thinking goes straight back to the misconception that there is one (and only one) perfect person for you out there–only one! Think for a minute about how little sense this makes. If there were truly only one perfect person for your in the world, how would you ever know? What city to move to so you could find them?What school or company you should choose so you could meet them?What interests you should cultivate so that you would have something in common?What language you should speak/learn so you don't blow the opportunity when it arises? And so on. Talk about finding a needle in a haystack…

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The Art of Listening Well - Part 2 of a Series

In part 1 of The Art of Listening Well, we talked about the difference between active and passive listening. If you need to catch up on that part of this conversation, you can do so by clicking this link. In part 2 and beyond, I want to start talking about specific tools that you can use to shore up your listening skills. I call these tools on purpose because once you take hold of the "toolbox full of tools" analogy, you will begin to see just how important they are. In the same way that a mechanic would be lost without his tools, every marriage is destined to be lost at some level without some good tools of their own…

READ MORE of the article above…
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Is Stress Causing Fights in Your Marriage?

Have you ever had a situation where (in your humble opinion) your spouse was not acting like himself or herself and you just couldn't figure out why? Most of us have–myself included. (While I'm being honest, this has happened to my wife many times as well where I am not being myself!) In your case, were you able understand what was going on, or did you merely "blow it off" like usual? More times than not, this kind of behavior is caused by some type of stress. Read further to discover how to recognize the signs, learn how to respond (without getting in trouble!), and…

READ MORE of the article above…
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Porn Will Kill Your Marriage From the Inside Out

I hope the title of this article grabbed your full attention, it was meant to. Just like any other addiction (defined below), pornography will change you–slowly at first, until you are a different person than you once were. It kills the former you, and spawns a replacement. A replacement that has less respect for others (including your spouse), is more self-centered, and is further out of control. All the while not even noticing the incremental and detrimental changes that have been taking place. Addiction defined: an addiction is any behavior that you cannot seem to stop or control despite the fact that it is a detriment to yourself or others…

READ MORE of the article above…
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Learn to Resolve Conflict Better or Avoid it Altogether

[To be honest, I'm not sure anyone could ever avoid conflict completely, but at the very least we can all learn to minimize it.] Why is it that some couples always seem to be happy while other couples seem destined to remain in conflict most of the time? The answer, I think, can be summed up in this – some couples fight fair and some don't. Since we are all going to fight (or disagree) sooner or later, the manner in which we disagree and how we treat each other when we do holds the key here. This will determine whether most fights will last for weeks on end or be resolved and sincerely put behind you in less than a day…

READ MORE of the article above…
Comments

How to Know if Your Spouse is THE ONE!

This line of thinking goes straight back to the misconception that there is one (and only one) perfect person for you out there–only one! Think for a minute about how little sense this makes. If there were truly only one perfect person for your in the world, how would you ever know? What city to move to so you could find them?What school or company you should choose so you could meet them?What interests you should cultivate so that you would have something in common?What language you should speak/learn so you don't blow the opportunity when it arises? And so on. Talk about finding a needle in a haystack…

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