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Most Couples Think They Struggle With Communication at Times. Most of Them are Wrong.

Tami and I operate a group counseling practice in Southern California. We are known throughout the area for providing the best and most practical marriage counseling around. We love this reputation. With ten licensed counselors and registered interns on our staff, we collectively see about 100 clients each and every week. All of this gives us some incredible insight into the kinds of things that most couples struggle with. Further, we know what it takes to get these couples back on track when needed…

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​Romantic Love is Great, But it Won’t Last Forever. And That is Good News.

Tami and I have been married for over 32 years and we dated for 4 years before that. Additionally, Tami is a licensed marriage counselor and we have worked with many, many couples together over the years. Add to this the fact that I work in the neurology field and you will agree that together Tami and I have a pretty good grasp on both the psychology and science of relationships. Further, we love to share what we have learned with others just like you. We all know that the early stages of love brings us so much joy. Truth be told, there is a chemical cocktail of oxytocin, dopamine, serotonin….

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​At Some Point, the Majority of Spouses Will Wonder if They Married They Wrong Person.

There is so much wrong with this line of thinking. We are not saying there is something wrong with you, by the way, since this line of thinking is so pervasive in our culture. This thinking will affect us all. So the job falls to us to teach you why this mindset is so flawed. This flawed thinking is based on the notion that there is one, and only one, perfect person for you on this planet. Only one! Remember that there are approximately 7.5 billion people on the planet. This “finding a needle in a haystack” kind of mentality tricks us into believing that when, not if, something feels wrong in our marriage…

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You and Your Spouse Have Differences and the Problem Is Not What You Think It Is

If you have been married for any time at all, you have become keenly aware of the differences between you and your spouse. I am talking about the kind of differences that drive you bonkers. One of you makes decisions quickly and decisively and the other makes them slowly and methodically. This kind of thing drives you both crazy. One of you gets your feelings hurt easily and the other never seems to feel anything at all. Or one of you is very punctual and respectful of other's time and the other one of you seems to have little concept of time and is always running late…

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Your Self Interest is Killing Affection in Your Marriage

Do you ever read something, stop and ponder for a moment, then say, "Wow, that was profound!" That's exactly what I did the other day when I read the following quote.

Self-interest is the enemy of all true affection. ~F.D. Roosevelt

As I often do, I am interpreting this quote within the context of marriage which I would translate as, "Self-centeredness and loving my spouse fully are at opposite ends of the spectrum." In other words, I cannot be both self-centered and have quality intimacy…

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Most Couples Think They Struggle With Communication at Times. Most of Them are Wrong.

Tami and I operate a group counseling practice in Southern California. We are known throughout the area for providing the best and most practical marriage counseling around. We love this reputation. With ten licensed counselors and registered interns on our staff, we collectively see about 100 clients each and every week. All of this gives us some incredible insight into the kinds of things that most couples struggle with. Further, we know what it takes to get these couples back on track when needed…

READ MORE of the article above…
Comments

​Romantic Love is Great, But it Won’t Last Forever. And That is Good News.

Tami and I have been married for over 32 years and we dated for 4 years before that. Additionally, Tami is a licensed marriage counselor and we have worked with many, many couples together over the years. Add to this the fact that I work in the neurology field and you will agree that together Tami and I have a pretty good grasp on both the psychology and science of relationships. Further, we love to share what we have learned with others just like you. We all know that the early stages of love brings us so much joy. Truth be told, there is a chemical cocktail of oxytocin, dopamine, serotonin….

READ MORE of the article above…
Comments

​At Some Point, the Majority of Spouses Will Wonder if They Married They Wrong Person.

There is so much wrong with this line of thinking. We are not saying there is something wrong with you, by the way, since this line of thinking is so pervasive in our culture. This thinking will affect us all. So the job falls to us to teach you why this mindset is so flawed. This flawed thinking is based on the notion that there is one, and only one, perfect person for you on this planet. Only one! Remember that there are approximately 7.5 billion people on the planet. This “finding a needle in a haystack” kind of mentality tricks us into believing that when, not if, something feels wrong in our marriage…

READ MORE of the article above…
Comments

You and Your Spouse Have Differences and the Problem Is Not What You Think It Is

If you have been married for any time at all, you have become keenly aware of the differences between you and your spouse. I am talking about the kind of differences that drive you bonkers. One of you makes decisions quickly and decisively and the other makes them slowly and methodically. This kind of thing drives you both crazy. One of you gets your feelings hurt easily and the other never seems to feel anything at all. Or one of you is very punctual and respectful of other's time and the other one of you seems to have little concept of time and is always running late…

READ MORE of the article above…
Comments

Your Self Interest is Killing Affection in Your Marriage

Do you ever read something, stop and ponder for a moment, then say, "Wow, that was profound!" That's exactly what I did the other day when I read the following quote.

Self-interest is the enemy of all true affection. ~F.D. Roosevelt

As I often do, I am interpreting this quote within the context of marriage which I would translate as, "Self-centeredness and loving my spouse fully are at opposite ends of the spectrum." In other words, I cannot be both self-centered and have quality intimacy…

READ MORE of the article above…
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