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Most Couples Think They Struggle With Communication at Times. Most of Them are Wrong.

Tami and I operate a group counseling practice in Southern California. We are known throughout the area for providing the best and most practical marriage counseling around. We love this reputation. With ten licensed counselors and registered interns on our staff, we collectively see about 100 clients each and every week. All of this gives us some incredible insight into the kinds of things that most couples struggle with. Further, we know what it takes to get these couples back on track when needed…

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You Think Your Marriage is Safe From an Affair. Here’s Why You're Wrong.

Let me get right to the point. Marriage drift. This is a phrase we use to describe the lack of intentionality in marriage. In your marriage (and most other things in life), you will either be intentional to learn, grow, and improve or you will drift. Think of drifting as what happens when you are in the middle of the ocean in a boat without any power or the means to move yourself anywhere. Think of the movie Cast Away with Tom Hanks. When you are drifting, you will merely end up wherever the forces of nature happen to take you. You will feel utterly powerless…

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You Don’t Process Your Life in a Healthy Way, and it’s Killing You

We recently wrote, “What They Can Never Take Away From Us” which was a very difficult thing for us to write about. We were robbed and some of our most valuable possessions were taken from us. Forever gone. So, we decided to tell our story about what happened. At one point, someone said something like, “Yeah, but why would you force yourself to relive all of that when you can just forget it?” I thought, “Forget it? Really?” Are we, as humans, ever able to willingly just forget anything…

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What They Can Never Take Away From Us

What felt like the end of the world for us, was an opportunity for deeper connection in our marriage. I’m so glad we didn’t miss this opportunity. Here’s what happened. Tami and I fell in love at 17 and 18 years old, respectively. What a wonderful, fun time this was in our lives. Once we started dating, we enjoyed four foundational years of romance and were married by the time we were 21 and 22. We both came from humble backgrounds — so, in our new married life together, we had nothing except each other, but in each other we had everything we needed…

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How to Break Your Spouse’s Heart the Right Way

If you are married, sooner or later you will have to deliver some difficult or heartbreaking news to your spouse. Maybe you got the phone call about your spouse’s dad being in a car accident. Or maybe it was the message that let you know your spouse did not get the job they’ve been working so hard to get. Let’s face it, life is hard at times. So, what’s the right way to handle these disappointments? I recently got some really heartbreaking news. I knew that I would need to tell Tami and bring her up to speed, but how I wondered? I really hate to see her so hurt and disappointed…

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Most Couples Think They Struggle With Communication at Times. Most of Them are Wrong.

Tami and I operate a group counseling practice in Southern California. We are known throughout the area for providing the best and most practical marriage counseling around. We love this reputation. With ten licensed counselors and registered interns on our staff, we collectively see about 100 clients each and every week. All of this gives us some incredible insight into the kinds of things that most couples struggle with. Further, we know what it takes to get these couples back on track when needed…

READ MORE of the article above…
Comments

You Think Your Marriage is Safe From an Affair. Here’s Why You're Wrong.

Let me get right to the point. Marriage drift. This is a phrase we use to describe the lack of intentionality in marriage. In your marriage (and most other things in life), you will either be intentional to learn, grow, and improve or you will drift. Think of drifting as what happens when you are in the middle of the ocean in a boat without any power or the means to move yourself anywhere. Think of the movie Cast Away with Tom Hanks. When you are drifting, you will merely end up wherever the forces of nature happen to take you. You will feel utterly powerless…

READ MORE of the article above…
Comments

You Don’t Process Your Life in a Healthy Way, and it’s Killing You

We recently wrote, “What They Can Never Take Away From Us” which was a very difficult thing for us to write about. We were robbed and some of our most valuable possessions were taken from us. Forever gone. So, we decided to tell our story about what happened. At one point, someone said something like, “Yeah, but why would you force yourself to relive all of that when you can just forget it?” I thought, “Forget it? Really?” Are we, as humans, ever able to willingly just forget anything…

READ MORE of the article above…
Comments

What They Can Never Take Away From Us

What felt like the end of the world for us, was an opportunity for deeper connection in our marriage. I’m so glad we didn’t miss this opportunity. Here’s what happened. Tami and I fell in love at 17 and 18 years old, respectively. What a wonderful, fun time this was in our lives. Once we started dating, we enjoyed four foundational years of romance and were married by the time we were 21 and 22. We both came from humble backgrounds — so, in our new married life together, we had nothing except each other, but in each other we had everything we needed…

READ MORE of the article above…
Comments

How to Break Your Spouse’s Heart the Right Way

If you are married, sooner or later you will have to deliver some difficult or heartbreaking news to your spouse. Maybe you got the phone call about your spouse’s dad being in a car accident. Or maybe it was the message that let you know your spouse did not get the job they’ve been working so hard to get. Let’s face it, life is hard at times. So, what’s the right way to handle these disappointments? I recently got some really heartbreaking news. I knew that I would need to tell Tami and bring her up to speed, but how I wondered? I really hate to see her so hurt and disappointed…

READ MORE of the article above…
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