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You Don’t Process Your Life in a Healthy Way, and it’s Killing You

We recently wrote, “What They Can Never Take Away From Us” which was a very difficult thing for us to write about. We were robbed and some of our most valuable possessions were taken from us. Forever gone. So, we decided to tell our story about what happened. At one point, someone said something like, “Yeah, but why would you force yourself to relive all of that when you can just forget it?” I thought, “Forget it? Really?” Are we, as humans, ever able to willingly just forget anything…

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What They Can Never Take Away From Us

What felt like the end of the world for us, was an opportunity for deeper connection in our marriage. I’m so glad we didn’t miss this opportunity. Here’s what happened. Tami and I fell in love at 17 and 18 years old, respectively. What a wonderful, fun time this was in our lives. Once we started dating, we enjoyed four foundational years of romance and were married by the time we were 21 and 22. We both came from humble backgrounds — so, in our new married life together, we had nothing except each other, but in each other we had everything we needed…

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Your Marriage Doesn't Live Here Anymore

This is a true story. There is a house that I drive by several times a week and have been doing so for years. Each time I drive passed this house, I can feel the weight of what happened there or, more accurately, what didn't happen there. At one point, when the "For Sale" sign went up, the weight became heavier still. And when the moving truck pulled away with the last of this house's former belongings, the weight for me was palpable. I have considered finding a new route that does not include me driving by this house, but I cannot ignore what happened here and I must work through it. I must learn from it so that it never happens to me.

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Apologies, Forgiveness, Grace, and Love in Marriage

We get asked many many questions about how apologies, forgiveness, grace, love, and expectations should all work together. For example: Does every apology need forgiveness to bring closure? And, if so, how do you get your spouse to forgive after you apologize? And what about this one: Isn't grace and forgiveness really the same thing? To answer these questions well, let's go back to the beginning – the beginning of people. In Genesis 2:18, we see that God gave a woman to Adam to be a _partner_ or _companion_. The thought behind the Hebrew phrase "ezer kenegdo" means that God was giving Adam something that no animal or even God would provide…
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You and Your Spouse Have Differences and the Problem Is Not What You Think It Is

If you have been married for any time at all, you have become keenly aware of the differences between you and your spouse. I am talking about the kind of differences that drive you bonkers. One of you makes decisions quickly and decisively and the other makes them slowly and methodically. This kind of thing drives you both crazy. One of you gets your feelings hurt easily and the other never seems to feel anything at all. Or one of you is very punctual and respectful of other's time and the other one of you seems to have little concept of time and is always running late…

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You Don’t Process Your Life in a Healthy Way, and it’s Killing You

We recently wrote, “What They Can Never Take Away From Us” which was a very difficult thing for us to write about. We were robbed and some of our most valuable possessions were taken from us. Forever gone. So, we decided to tell our story about what happened. At one point, someone said something like, “Yeah, but why would you force yourself to relive all of that when you can just forget it?” I thought, “Forget it? Really?” Are we, as humans, ever able to willingly just forget anything…

READ MORE of the article above…
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What They Can Never Take Away From Us

What felt like the end of the world for us, was an opportunity for deeper connection in our marriage. I’m so glad we didn’t miss this opportunity. Here’s what happened. Tami and I fell in love at 17 and 18 years old, respectively. What a wonderful, fun time this was in our lives. Once we started dating, we enjoyed four foundational years of romance and were married by the time we were 21 and 22. We both came from humble backgrounds — so, in our new married life together, we had nothing except each other, but in each other we had everything we needed…

READ MORE of the article above…
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Your Marriage Doesn't Live Here Anymore

This is a true story. There is a house that I drive by several times a week and have been doing so for years. Each time I drive passed this house, I can feel the weight of what happened there or, more accurately, what didn't happen there. At one point, when the "For Sale" sign went up, the weight became heavier still. And when the moving truck pulled away with the last of this house's former belongings, the weight for me was palpable. I have considered finding a new route that does not include me driving by this house, but I cannot ignore what happened here and I must work through it. I must learn from it so that it never happens to me.

READ MORE of the article above…
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Apologies, Forgiveness, Grace, and Love in Marriage

We get asked many many questions about how apologies, forgiveness, grace, love, and expectations should all work together. For example: Does every apology need forgiveness to bring closure? And, if so, how do you get your spouse to forgive after you apologize? And what about this one: Isn't grace and forgiveness really the same thing? To answer these questions well, let's go back to the beginning – the beginning of people. In Genesis 2:18, we see that God gave a woman to Adam to be a _partner_ or _companion_. The thought behind the Hebrew phrase "ezer kenegdo" means that God was giving Adam something that no animal or even God would provide…
READ MORE of the article above…
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You and Your Spouse Have Differences and the Problem Is Not What You Think It Is

If you have been married for any time at all, you have become keenly aware of the differences between you and your spouse. I am talking about the kind of differences that drive you bonkers. One of you makes decisions quickly and decisively and the other makes them slowly and methodically. This kind of thing drives you both crazy. One of you gets your feelings hurt easily and the other never seems to feel anything at all. Or one of you is very punctual and respectful of other's time and the other one of you seems to have little concept of time and is always running late…

READ MORE of the article above…
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