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There is More Power in a Marriage Vow Than You Realize - PART 1 by Brad Miller

I have spent a fair amount of time lately really trying to parse out the reasons why marriage vows are so powerful. To be fair, the reasons could fill the entire chapter of a book, if not the whole book itself. Nonetheless, I am going to do my best to merely give some of the highlights here. Please keep in mind that while it is not my intent to talk down to those who are not married (or not yet!), it's difficult to understand some of the benefits of marriage without contrasting them to…

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Culture Says to Listen to Your Heart – Here's Why You Shouldn't by Brad Miller

You have been told over and over again to listen to your heart, but those telling you this are not telling you the other half of the equation. You probably already know what I'm talking about. Familiar phrases like, "Follow your heart," "Always listen to your heart because it's always right," or "Your heart knows things that your mind can't explain" are all over the internet. There are literally thousands of quotes on Pinterest, Instagram, and elsewhere that would seem to tell us to…

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Are You Saying, "I Love You" Too Much? by Brad Miller

We often get great and insightful feedback from our social media followers. Recently we posted the picture on the left that says, "I don't tell you often enough, but I love you so much!" We received quite a few responses to this post. Most people loved sharing this post with their sweeties, but some were confused. In fact, we were surprised by how confused some couples were. The following comment summarizes the confusion very well. This particular wife said, “Mine [husband] doesn't think it's necessary to say it often…

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Those Who Think They Will Never Fall Out of Love Are at the Greatest Risk of Doing So by Brad Miller

Everyone wants to find true love and have it last forever. The ugly little truth is that things don't always work out this way—and we all know it. Couples often ask us about the best ways to stay connected. The very fact that so many ask this question implies that early on in most marriages, couples become aware that things seem to be changing—and they are indeed. Can a husband and wife learn what to expect with these changes and how to stay well-connected in spite of them? Yes, they can. We would love to share with you a simple framework to accomplish just that…

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You Don’t Process Your Life in a Healthy Way, and it’s Killing You by Brad Miller

We recently wrote, “What They Can Never Take Away From Us” which was a very difficult thing for us to write about. We were robbed and some of our most valuable possessions were taken from us. Forever gone. So, we decided to tell our story about what happened. At one point, someone said something like, “Yeah, but why would you force yourself to relive all of that when you can just forget it?”

I thought, “Forget it? Really?” Are we, as humans, ever able to willingly just forget anything?…

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What They Can Never Take Away From Us by Brad Miller

What felt like the end of the world for us, was an opportunity for deeper connection in our marriage. I’m so glad we didn’t miss this opportunity. Here’s what happened. Tami and I fell in love at 17 and 18 years old, respectively. What a wonderful, fun time this was in our lives. Once we started dating, we enjoyed four foundational years of romance and were married by the time we were 21 and 22. We both came from humble backgrounds — so, in our new married life together, we had nothing except each other…

Read more…

Your Marriage Doesn't Live Here Anymore by Brad Miller

This is a true story. There is a house that I drive by several times a week and have been doing so for years. Each time I drive past this house I can feel the weight of what happened there, or more accurately, what didn't happen there. At one point, when the "For Sale" sign went up, the weight became heavier still. And when the moving truck pulled away with the last of this house's former belongings, the weight for me was palpable. I have considered finding a new route that does not include…

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Your Wedding Anniversary is a Bigger Deal Than You Think by Brad Miller

Thirty-two years ago I took Tamara Ann Schroer to be my wife. Everything in my life changed that day, but not in the "rainbows and sunshine" kind of way like you might expect. Tami and I made many promises to God and each other that day, but the truth is that we really had no idea how much of a BIG DEAL those promises were — until now. On the day we married (April 20th, 1985), I knew that being with Tami made me very happy and I wanted…

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The Heart of Marriage and a FREE book! by Brad Miller

Every couple needs to spend quality time together. We refer to this as emotional connection, deep bonding, or just staying connected. We all know we need to do it, but few of us are intentional enough to pull it off. Life just seems to pulls us down and the quality of our relationships seems to wane with it. Tami and I recently read The Heart of Marriage. This is a collection of stories from dozens of authors (some of our favorites!) which is one of our favorite types of books to read together…

Read more…

Can Valentines Day Be About More Than Candy Hearts? by Brad Miller

We have all heard people grumble about Valentines Day as, "Just another opportunity for Hallmark to take your money." Please allow us to challenge you in your thinking because Valentines Day is an opportunity for you to do something meaningful for your spouse. Further, when you're married, you never want to miss a chance to do something meaningful! Anyone who has been married for more than a year or two knows very well what it looks like when the honeymoon becomes…

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There is More Power in a Marriage Vow Than You Realize - PART 1

I have spent a fair amount of time lately really trying to parse out the reasons why marriage vows are so powerful. To be fair, the reasons could fill the entire chapter of a book, if not the whole book itself. Nonetheless, I am going to do my best to merely give some of the highlights here. Please keep in mind that while it is not my intent to talk down to those who are not married (or not yet!), it's difficult to understand some of the benefits of marriage without contrasting them to…

Read more of this article

Culture Says to Listen to Your Heart – Here's Why You Shouldn't

You have been told over and over again to listen to your heart, but those telling you this are not telling you the other half of the equation. You probably already know what I'm talking about. Familiar phrases like, "Follow your heart," "Always listen to your heart because it's always right," or "Your heart knows things that your mind can't explain" are all over the internet. There are literally thousands of quotes on Pinterest, Instagram, and elsewhere that would seem to tell us to…

Read more of this article

Are You Saying, "I Love You" Too Much?

We often get great and insightful feedback from our social media followers. Recently we posted the picture on the left that says, "I don't tell you often enough, but I love you so much!" We received quite a few responses to this post. Most people loved sharing this post with their sweeties, but some were confused. In fact, we were surprised by how confused some couples were. The following comment summarizes the confusion very well. This particular wife said, “Mine [husband] doesn't think it's necessary to say it often…

Read more of this article

Those Who Think They Will Never Fall Out of Love Are at the Greatest Risk of Doing So

Everyone wants to find true love and have it last forever. The ugly little truth is that things don't always work out this way—and we all know it. Couples often ask us about the best ways to stay connected. The very fact that so many ask this question implies that early on in most marriages, couples become aware that things seem to be changing—and they are indeed. Can a husband and wife learn what to expect with these changes and how to stay well-connected in spite of them? Yes, they can. We would love to share with you a simple framework to accomplish just that…

Read more of this article

You Don’t Process Your Life in a Healthy Way, and it’s Killing You

We recently wrote, “What They Can Never Take Away From Us” which was a very difficult thing for us to write about. We were robbed and some of our most valuable possessions were taken from us. Forever gone. So, we decided to tell our story about what happened. At one point, someone said something like, “Yeah, but why would you force yourself to relive all of that when you can just forget it?”

I thought, “Forget it? Really?” Are we, as humans, ever able to willingly just forget anything?…

Read more of this article

What They Can Never Take Away From Us

What felt like the end of the world for us, was an opportunity for deeper connection in our marriage. I’m so glad we didn’t miss this opportunity. Here’s what happened. Tami and I fell in love at 17 and 18 years old, respectively. What a wonderful, fun time this was in our lives. Once we started dating, we enjoyed four foundational years of romance and were married by the time we were 21 and 22. We both came from humble backgrounds — so, in our new married life together, we had nothing except each other…

Read more of this article

Your Marriage Doesn't Live Here Anymore

This is a true story. There is a house that I drive by several times a week and have been doing so for years. Each time I drive past this house I can feel the weight of what happened there, or more accurately, what didn't happen there. At one point, when the "For Sale" sign went up, the weight became heavier still. And when the moving truck pulled away with the last of this house's former belongings, the weight for me was palpable. I have considered finding a new route that does not include…

Read more of this article

Your Wedding Anniversary is a Bigger Deal Than You Think

Thirty-two years ago I took Tamara Ann Schroer to be my wife. Everything in my life changed that day, but not in the "rainbows and sunshine" kind of way like you might expect. Tami and I made many promises to God and each other that day, but the truth is that we really had no idea how much of a BIG DEAL those promises were — until now. On the day we married (April 20th, 1985), I knew that being with Tami made me very happy and I wanted…

Read more of this article

The Heart of Marriage and a FREE book!

Every couple needs to spend quality time together. We refer to this as emotional connection, deep bonding, or just staying connected. We all know we need to do it, but few of us are intentional enough to pull it off. Life just seems to pulls us down and the quality of our relationships seems to wane with it. Tami and I recently read The Heart of Marriage. This is a collection of stories from dozens of authors (some of our favorites!) which is one of our favorite types of books to read together…

Read more of this article

Can Valentines Day Be About More Than Candy Hearts?

We have all heard people grumble about Valentines Day as, "Just another opportunity for Hallmark to take your money." Please allow us to challenge you in your thinking because Valentines Day is an opportunity for you to do something meaningful for your spouse. Further, when you're married, you never want to miss a chance to do something meaningful! Anyone who has been married for more than a year or two knows very well what it looks like when the honeymoon becomes…

Read more of this article