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Your Wedding Anniversary is a Bigger Deal Than You Think

Thirty-two years ago I took Tamara Ann Schroer to be my wife. Everything in my life changed that day, but not in the "rainbows and sunshine" kind of way like you might expect. Tami and I made many promises to God and each other that day, but the truth is that we really had no idea how much of a BIG DEAL those promises were — until now. On the day we married (April 20th, 1985), I knew that being with Tami made me very happy and I wanted as much of that happiness as I could possibly fit into my life. Getting married seemed like the best way to take that next step, and so we did…

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You and Your Spouse Have Differences and the Problem Is Not What You Think It Is

If you have been married for any time at all, you have become keenly aware of the differences between you and your spouse. I am talking about the kind of differences that drive you bonkers. One of you makes decisions quickly and decisively and the other makes them slowly and methodically. This kind of thing drives you both crazy. One of you gets your feelings hurt easily and the other never seems to feel anything at all. Or one of you is very punctual and respectful of other's time and the other one of you seems to have little concept of time and is always running late…

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The NUMBER ONE Sign That Your Marriage is in Trouble

People often ask Tami and I how they can know when their marriage is in trouble. Like most questions of this nature, there is the short answer and the long one. We will address the short answer first, then move on to the longer answer for those who have time to read the entire post (about 6 minutes).

Question: What is the NUMBER ONE sign that your marriage is in trouble?

Answer: Lack of emotional connection. — Emotional Connection Defined: This type of connection between two people…

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Selfishness: The Key to Ruining Your Marriage

Selfishness is the antithesis (the exact opposite) of how we should react when married. Let me say that one more time to let it sink in fully: selfishness is the antithesis of marriage. And, we all struggle with selfishness. You, me, your spouse, and my spouse all will struggle here. In case you were unable to grasp the full reality of the previous statement, let's break it down together. Selfishness is allowing your wants, your needs, and your preferences to come before those of your spouse or your marriage. I say allowing because unless you are intentional to live selflessly every day, selfishness will creep in and take over…


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Protecting Your Marriage from Happiness

We all need to protect the things that are important to us and valuable to us. Our marriages are no different. Our marriages, in fact, should be at the top of that list because so much is at stake. Unfortunately, we have largely bought into the lie that we "deserve to be happy." This is the worst kind of lie because, if we are not careful in our thinking, it sounds like a good idea. Believing this kind of lie has dealt a sucker punch to the institution of marriage and made countless couples miserable. Please let me explain. Happiness is a feeling. It is something that comes and goes and it can be, at times, very fickle…

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Your Wedding Anniversary is a Bigger Deal Than You Think

Thirty-two years ago I took Tamara Ann Schroer to be my wife. Everything in my life changed that day, but not in the "rainbows and sunshine" kind of way like you might expect. Tami and I made many promises to God and each other that day, but the truth is that we really had no idea how much of a BIG DEAL those promises were — until now. On the day we married (April 20th, 1985), I knew that being with Tami made me very happy and I wanted as much of that happiness as I could possibly fit into my life. Getting married seemed like the best way to take that next step, and so we did…

READ MORE of the article above…
Comments

You and Your Spouse Have Differences and the Problem Is Not What You Think It Is

If you have been married for any time at all, you have become keenly aware of the differences between you and your spouse. I am talking about the kind of differences that drive you bonkers. One of you makes decisions quickly and decisively and the other makes them slowly and methodically. This kind of thing drives you both crazy. One of you gets your feelings hurt easily and the other never seems to feel anything at all. Or one of you is very punctual and respectful of other's time and the other one of you seems to have little concept of time and is always running late…

READ MORE of the article above…
Comments

The NUMBER ONE Sign That Your Marriage is in Trouble

People often ask Tami and I how they can know when their marriage is in trouble. Like most questions of this nature, there is the short answer and the long one. We will address the short answer first, then move on to the longer answer for those who have time to read the entire post (about 6 minutes).

Question: What is the NUMBER ONE sign that your marriage is in trouble?

Answer: Lack of emotional connection. — Emotional Connection Defined: This type of connection between two people…

READ MORE of the article above…
Comments

Selfishness: The Key to Ruining Your Marriage

Selfishness is the antithesis (the exact opposite) of how we should react when married. Let me say that one more time to let it sink in fully: selfishness is the antithesis of marriage. And, we all struggle with selfishness. You, me, your spouse, and my spouse all will struggle here. In case you were unable to grasp the full reality of the previous statement, let's break it down together. Selfishness is allowing your wants, your needs, and your preferences to come before those of your spouse or your marriage. I say allowing because unless you are intentional to live selflessly every day, selfishness will creep in and take over…


READ MORE of the article above…
Comments

Protecting Your Marriage from Happiness

We all need to protect the things that are important to us and valuable to us. Our marriages are no different. Our marriages, in fact, should be at the top of that list because so much is at stake. Unfortunately, we have largely bought into the lie that we "deserve to be happy." This is the worst kind of lie because, if we are not careful in our thinking, it sounds like a good idea. Believing this kind of lie has dealt a sucker punch to the institution of marriage and made countless couples miserable. Please let me explain. Happiness is a feeling. It is something that comes and goes and it can be, at times, very fickle…

READ MORE of the article above…

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