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You Think You Know How Intimacy in Marriage Works, Unfortunately You Don’t by Brad Miller

If we talk about "healthy intimacy" in marriage, we must be talking about having sex as often as a couple would like to, right? Nope! This thinking is dead wrong and will eventually undermine and can even ruin your marriage. It really can! Not to worry though because we would love to help you with a healthier view of intimacy, one that will keep your marriage happy and thriving for many years to come, instead of merely the next 15 minutes. To help us figure this out, let’s look to both science and the Bible because they both have much to say on the subject…

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Why We Wrote a Marriage Book That Everyone Needs but Nobody Wants by Brad Miller

There is a great deal of solid information and teaching out there from some expert marketers on how to market products and services to people just like you. These experts in the field of marketing say that marketers (this includes us since we have books/products to sell) need to survey their potential market to find out where their customers are in life (not location), what they want, and to learn the language they use. Once that information is gathered, a good marketer can create a product specifically targeted to a group that…

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Most Couples Think They Struggle With Communication at Times. Most of Them are Wrong. by Brad Miller

Tami and I operate a group counseling practice in Southern California. We are known throughout the area for providing the best and most practical marriage counseling around. We love this reputation. With ten licensed counselors and registered interns on our staff, we collectively see about 100 clients each and every week. All of this gives us some incredible insight into the kinds of things that most couples struggle with. Further, we know what it takes to get these couples back on track when needed…

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What They Can Never Take Away From Us by Brad Miller

What felt like the end of the world for us, was an opportunity for deeper connection in our marriage. I’m so glad we didn’t miss this opportunity. Here’s what happened. Tami and I fell in love at 17 and 18 years old, respectively. What a wonderful, fun time this was in our lives. Once we started dating, we enjoyed four foundational years of romance and were married by the time we were 21 and 22. We both came from humble backgrounds — so, in our new married life together, we had nothing except each other…

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How to Break Your Spouse’s Heart the Right Way by Brad Miller

If you are married, sooner or later you will have to deliver some difficult or heartbreaking news to your spouse. Maybe you got the phone call about your spouse’s dad being in a car accident. Or maybe it was the message that let you know your spouse did not get the job they’ve been working so hard to get. Let’s face it, life is hard at times. So, what’s the right way to handle these disappointments? I recently got some really heartbreaking news. I knew that I would need to…

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Your Wedding Anniversary is a Bigger Deal Than You Think by Brad Miller

Thirty-two years ago I took Tamara Ann Schroer to be my wife. Everything in my life changed that day, but not in the "rainbows and sunshine" kind of way like you might expect. Tami and I made many promises to God and each other that day, but the truth is that we really had no idea how much of a BIG DEAL those promises were — until now. On the day we married (April 20th, 1985), I knew that being with Tami made me very happy and I wanted…

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You and Your Spouse Have Differences and the Problem Is Not What You Think It Is by Brad Miller

If you have been married for any time at all, you have become keenly aware of the differences between you and your spouse. I am talking about the kind of differences that drive you both bonkers. For example, maybe one of you makes decisions quickly and decisively and the other makes them slowly and methodically. This kind of thing drives you both crazy. Or, maybe one of you gets your feelings hurt easily and the other never seems to…

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The NUMBER ONE Sign That Your Marriage is in Trouble by Brad Miller

People often ask Tami and I how they can know when their marriage is in trouble. Like most questions of this nature, there is the short answer and the long one. We will address the short answer first, then move on to the longer answer for those who have time to read the entire post. Question: What is the NUMBER ONE sign that your marriage is in trouble? Answer: Lack of emotional connection. Emotional Connection Defined. This type of connection between two people is deep and…

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You Think You Know How Intimacy in Marriage Works, Unfortunately You Don’t

If we talk about "healthy intimacy" in marriage, we must be talking about having sex as often as a couple would like to, right? Nope! This thinking is dead wrong and will eventually undermine and can even ruin your marriage. It really can! Not to worry though because we would love to help you with a healthier view of intimacy, one that will keep your marriage happy and thriving for many years to come, instead of merely the next 15 minutes. To help us figure this out, let’s look to both science and the Bible because they both have much to say on the subject…

Read more of this article

Why We Wrote a Marriage Book That Everyone Needs but Nobody Wants

There is a great deal of solid information and teaching out there from some expert marketers on how to market products and services to people just like you. These experts in the field of marketing say that marketers (this includes us since we have books/products to sell) need to survey their potential market to find out where their customers are in life (not location), what they want, and to learn the language they use. Once that information is gathered, a good marketer can create a product specifically targeted to a group that…

Read more of this article

Most Couples Think They Struggle With Communication at Times. Most of Them are Wrong.

Tami and I operate a group counseling practice in Southern California. We are known throughout the area for providing the best and most practical marriage counseling around. We love this reputation. With ten licensed counselors and registered interns on our staff, we collectively see about 100 clients each and every week. All of this gives us some incredible insight into the kinds of things that most couples struggle with. Further, we know what it takes to get these couples back on track when needed…

Read more of this article

What They Can Never Take Away From Us

What felt like the end of the world for us, was an opportunity for deeper connection in our marriage. I’m so glad we didn’t miss this opportunity. Here’s what happened. Tami and I fell in love at 17 and 18 years old, respectively. What a wonderful, fun time this was in our lives. Once we started dating, we enjoyed four foundational years of romance and were married by the time we were 21 and 22. We both came from humble backgrounds — so, in our new married life together, we had nothing except each other…

Read more of this article

How to Break Your Spouse’s Heart the Right Way

If you are married, sooner or later you will have to deliver some difficult or heartbreaking news to your spouse. Maybe you got the phone call about your spouse’s dad being in a car accident. Or maybe it was the message that let you know your spouse did not get the job they’ve been working so hard to get. Let’s face it, life is hard at times. So, what’s the right way to handle these disappointments? I recently got some really heartbreaking news. I knew that I would need to…

Read more of this article

Your Wedding Anniversary is a Bigger Deal Than You Think

Thirty-two years ago I took Tamara Ann Schroer to be my wife. Everything in my life changed that day, but not in the "rainbows and sunshine" kind of way like you might expect. Tami and I made many promises to God and each other that day, but the truth is that we really had no idea how much of a BIG DEAL those promises were — until now. On the day we married (April 20th, 1985), I knew that being with Tami made me very happy and I wanted…

Read more of this article

You and Your Spouse Have Differences and the Problem Is Not What You Think It Is

If you have been married for any time at all, you have become keenly aware of the differences between you and your spouse. I am talking about the kind of differences that drive you both bonkers. For example, maybe one of you makes decisions quickly and decisively and the other makes them slowly and methodically. This kind of thing drives you both crazy. Or, maybe one of you gets your feelings hurt easily and the other never seems to…

Read more of this article

The NUMBER ONE Sign That Your Marriage is in Trouble

People often ask Tami and I how they can know when their marriage is in trouble. Like most questions of this nature, there is the short answer and the long one. We will address the short answer first, then move on to the longer answer for those who have time to read the entire post. Question: What is the NUMBER ONE sign that your marriage is in trouble? Answer: Lack of emotional connection. Emotional Connection Defined. This type of connection between two people is deep and…

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