Let's be honest with each other. Sometimes marriage is amazing, and sometimes it's really hard. When we look back on our hard years (we now call them the "dark years"), we are so thankful that we valued the vows we took on our wedding day and never gave up. We felt like we were at the end of our rope at times, but we somehow understood that giving up was not an option for us.

Fast forward to today and we have been married over 30 years now. (If you want to see EXACTLY how long we've been married, we have an anniversary count-up clock here because — well because it's super fun.) But life can still be hard. Demanding jobs and the need to pay never-ending bills creates a great deal of stress. What's the proper response to going on dates once you are married? We all know that we SHOULD, but there is never enough time or money. While the two of us cannot imagine our lives without our kids, raising kids is a demanding, anxiety-provoking ordeal. And what about trying to get on the same page with your spouse on parenting issues? SHEESH! You either know exactly what we are talking about — or you soon will. We don't want to cast a dark cloud over your marriage, but we do want to help prepare you for your own dark years and give you what you need to get through them — and not merely survive, but THRIVE!

For us, the dark years are a distant memory now because we enjoy many more good days than not-so-good days. We have learned to be less self-centered. We have learned how to resolve conflict without inflicting a cycle of emotional damage. We have learned to trust each other deeply. We have learned to be intentional with our marriage. And we have learned not to take a single God-given breath for granted.

"In your marriage, you will either be intentional to work on having a great marriage or you will slowly drift off track. And the choice is yours."

How can YOU learn to be intentional enough to navigate your own dark years? Or, what if were possible to skip your dark years altogether? That's where the two of us come into the picture. We created Tandem Marriage out of a passion to build up married couples by offering insightful teaching and encouragement through writing, teaching, and social media.

We have lots of great (and free) information and tools here on TandemMarriage.com to help you have a thriving and happy marriage.

We wrote a book about conflict resolution in marriage called, Ready to Surrender. Many of you have told us the Ready to Surrender is the marriage book that nobody wants, but everyone needs. This is because we all hate to admit that our marriages don't seem to measure up to the seemingly perfect marriages we see on TV and in social media. That's because those relationships aren't real!

In all our years married and with the hundreds of couples we have worked with over the years, we can tell you this, marriage is beautiful chaos. Marriage can be both amazing and hard, sometimes at the same moment! We know what you’re going through because we’ve been there too.

We share about helpful books; some that we have written and some written by other amazing authors. Many people just like you find daily inspiration from our blog posts, Pinterest and Instagram pics, as well as Facebook and Twitter. You can also contact us and ask a question about marriage. You ask your questions and we will answer. We may answer directly, in our blog, or in our books, but we will answer. We are here to help you have a great marriage!

We also love to coach and mentor married couples, which we can do in person or via video chat. There are several seminars that we offer as well.

And, if there are resources, picture quotes, ebooks, etc. that you would like to see, please let us know using our contact form or our email link at the bottom of this page. We would love to provide those helpful tools for you in your marriage journey. We are listening. Try us out, you'll see!

We are adding new content to our blog regularly, and new social media content daily so keep coming back!

Let's chat soon, cheers!

Brad & Tami Miller

What We Believe About Marriage…


We believe that God ordained marriage for a purpose.

We believe that if we can overcome our marriage challenges (we've had some big ones) that you can too!

We believe that marriage can be great! Yes, even your marriage.

We believe that marriage is the foundational building block of society and when marriages fail so do families and communities.

We believe that healthy relationships lead to lasting and happy relationships.

We believe that you cannot ride a tandem bike without laughing together. (Please do not initiate a tandem ride during an argument. Doing so will nullify the previous statement.)

We believe that marriage is intended to be a monogamous, lifelong commitment—physical, emotional, and spiritual—intended to glorify God and for the nurturing of any children a couple may be blessed with.

We believe that you don't have to settle for a marriage you can live with. You can have a marriage that you cannot picture yourself without.

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