Let's be honest with each other. Sometimes marriage is amazing, and sometimes it's really hard. When we look back on our hard years (we now call them the "dark years"), we are so thankful that we valued the vows we took on our wedding day and never gave up. We felt like we were at the end of our rope at times, but we somehow understood that giving up was not an option for us.
Fast forward to today and we have been married over 30 years now. (If you want to see EXACTLY how long we've been married, we have an anniversary count-up clock here because — well because it's super fun.) But life can still be hard. Demanding jobs and the need to pay never-ending bills creates a great deal of stress. What's the proper response to going on dates once you are married? We all know that we SHOULD, but there is never enough time or money. While the two of us cannot imagine our lives without our kids, raising kids is a demanding, anxiety-provoking ordeal. And what about trying to get on the same page with your spouse on parenting issues? SHEESH! You either know exactly what we are talking about — or you soon will. We don't want to cast a dark cloud over your marriage, but we do want to help prepare you for your own dark years and give you what you need to get through them — and not merely survive, but THRIVE!
For us, the dark years are a distant memory now because we enjoy many more good days than not-so-good days. We have learned to be less self-centered. We have learned how to resolve conflict without inflicting a cycle of emotional damage. We have learned to trust each other deeply. We have learned to be intentional with our marriage. And we have learned not to take a single God-given breath for granted.
"In your marriage, you will either be intentional to work on having a great marriage or you will slowly drift off track. And the choice is yours."
Brad & Tami Miller
What We Believe About Marriage…
We believe that God ordained marriage for a purpose.
We believe that if we can overcome our marriage challenges (we've had some big ones) that you can too!
We believe that marriage can be great! Yes, even your marriage.
We believe that marriage is the foundational building block of society and when marriages fail so do families and communities.
We believe that healthy relationships lead to lasting and happy relationships.
We believe that you cannot ride a tandem bike without laughing together. (Please do not initiate a tandem ride during an argument. Doing so will nullify the previous statement.)
We believe that marriage is intended to be a monogamous, lifelong commitment—physical, emotional, and spiritual—intended to glorify God and for the nurturing of any children a couple may be blessed with.
We believe that you don't have to settle for a marriage you can live with. You can have a marriage that you cannot picture yourself without.