Welcome to the Tandem Marriage Blog…

If you aren't sure where to start reading on our blog, check out our START page here which lists some of our most popular articles as well as some of our most popular resources. Otherwise, please enjoy our blog, where we give some of our best advice and helpful tips and share all the marriage things we are thinking about. These articles are all intended to help you have a better and more fulfilling marriage.

PRO TIP: Read each article as a couple (about one per week) and use the article as a discussion starter between the two of you.


Parenting Challenges ARE Marriage Challenges, 2 of 2
by Brad Miller

In the last article we wrote on parenting, we reminded you that "parenting challenges ARE marriage challenges." This statement could not be more accurate. In this parenting article, we will give you some more tools to help you with effective, healthy parenting. AGE APPROPRIATE… Many of the couples we have worked with over the years have heard us say things like, "Yes, you should talk to your kids about…

Read more please…

The Marriage Tree – A Story Of Deep Love And Growth
by Brad Miller

The Marriage Tree - A Love Story. Imagine the most majestic and beautiful tree that you can think of. Even better if you can recall an amazing tree you have witnessed in person, rather than one you have only seen in a picture. I have been in the presence of many trees in my life that fit this description. One quite famous tree that comes to my mind is the…

Read more please…

Can Mere Thoughts Ruin a Marriage?
by Brad Miller

If you have been married for more than a few years, then you already know each of you has some brokenness from your past. Most of the time, you need outsiders, or trusted individuals who know you to speak truth, wisdom, and healing into your lives. If you have allowed others this privilege in your life, then you are already aware of some things you should be working to improve. One of the ways in which many. of us can improve…

Read more please…

What You Perceive As Control In Your Spouse May Not Be What It Seems
by Brad Miller

Most of the husbands I have met will talk at some point about how their wives are controlling in ways such as the wife needs to be informed about everything, have a say in everything, and often will want to tell a husband how to do things. Or, at least, that's how they see it. “What we often perceive as control in a spouse is actually much less about control than we think.” This is less about "control" and more about the differences between men's and women's brains…

Read more please…

What You Have Been Taught About Good Sex is All Wrong
by Brad Miller

With every passing year, I see more and more clearly the chasm between everything our culture believes about sex (physical intimacy) and what my Christian worldview helps me to understand. You and I have been influenced greatly by our culture's skewed views and it has hurt our most important relationship—our marriage. It is time to take back a healthier and more accurate view of physical intimacy in marriage and it starts with asking yourself two very important questions…

Read more please…

Parenting Challenges ARE Marriage Challenges, 1 of 2
by Brad Miller

Everything you do or don't do in parenting will also impact your marriage. In other words: "Parenting challenges ARE marriage challenges." With that idea in mind, let's dive in and see where we can help you with your marriage and parenting challenges.
BE ON THE SAME TEAM
One of the best things you can do for your marriage is to learn how to be united in all things – know that the two of you are a team and look for ways to work as a team. This is a simple concept, but will be…

Read more please…

Buyer Beware, You Are Purchasing This Property "as-is"
by Brad Miller

Read that title again. We have all read or seen this cautionary statement before, which invites us to use our utmost discretion before proceeding. Maybe you have considered purchasing a new home. You are hoping to get a reasonable price on something and don't mind a house that needs a little love, then you see the phrase, "SOLD AS IS" which may stop you in your tracks. You wonder, "Am I stuck with this property forever, even if something is wrong with it?" It would certainly seem so…

Read more please…

Is It Possible For You To Change? Do You Even Need To?
by Brad Miller

"My spouse is the one with most of the issues, and as soon as they get to work on fixing their issues, our marriage will be better." Honestly, if I had a dollar for every time a well-meaning husband or wife said something similar to the quote above, Tami and I would be writing from our million-dollar sailboat off the coast of Bali. But we do not get a dollar each time a well-meaning husband or wife believes in something so utterly self-defeating; instead, we simply…

Read more please…

Affirming Your Spouse; It’s The Secret Sauce You’ve Been Missing
by Brad Miller

We work with couples of all ages, from 20-something well up into their 70s. Some of these partners for life have recently tied the knot and some of them, like a towering and stable tree, have many rings for all the years they have been doing life together. Because of the wide range of couples we work with, we can’t help but take note of all of the common things that these couples struggle with. One of these common struggles is…


Read more please…

A Marriage Needs Fertile Soil To Grow. Does Yours Have It?
by Brad Miller

Does your marriage have fertile soil? What does it even mean when we say "fertile soil?" This is one of those phrases that is used so often, the true meaning gets watered down. The word fertile means; (of soil or land) producing or capable of producing abundant vegetation or crops. For our purposes in this conversation, fertile soil refers to the material or environment that we plant a seed, a tree, or a marriage into in hopes of producing an abundance of good things in this life…


Read more please…


OR, Blog Article List by Title only

We use a few cookies to enhance your experience on our site, but we don't collect any personal information without your permission. Read our privacy policy here.