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Are You Saying, "I Love You" Too Much? by Brad Miller

We often get great and insightful feedback from our social media followers. Recently we posted the picture on the left that says, "I don't tell you often enough, but I love you so much!" We received quite a few responses to this post. Most people loved sharing this post with their sweeties, but some were confused. In fact, we were surprised by how confused some couples were. The following comment summarizes the confusion very well. This particular wife said, “Mine [husband] doesn't think it's necessary to say it often…

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You Think You Know How Intimacy in Marriage Works, Unfortunately You Don’t by Brad Miller

If we talk about "healthy intimacy" in marriage, we must be talking about having sex as often as a couple would like to, right? Nope! This thinking is dead wrong and will eventually undermine and can even ruin your marriage. It really can! Not to worry though because we would love to help you with a healthier view of intimacy, one that will keep your marriage happy and thriving for many years to come, instead of merely the next 15 minutes. To help us figure this out, let’s look to both science and the Bible because they both have much to say on the subject…

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Why We Wrote a Marriage Book That Everyone Needs but Nobody Wants by Brad Miller

There is a great deal of solid information and teaching out there from some expert marketers on how to market products and services to people just like you. These experts in the field of marketing say that marketers (this includes us since we have books/products to sell) need to survey their potential market to find out where their customers are in life (not location), what they want, and to learn the language they use. Once that information is gathered, a good marketer can create a product specifically targeted to a group that…

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Most Couples Think They Struggle With Communication at Times. Most of Them are Wrong. by Brad Miller

Tami and I operate a group counseling practice in Southern California. We are known throughout the area for providing the best and most practical marriage counseling around. We love this reputation. With ten licensed counselors and registered interns on our staff, we collectively see about 100 clients each and every week. All of this gives us some incredible insight into the kinds of things that most couples struggle with. Further, we know what it takes to get these couples back on track when needed…

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You Think Your Marriage is Safe From an Affair. Here’s Why You're Wrong. by Brad Miller

Let me get right to the point. Marriage drift. This is a phrase we use to describe the lack of intentionality in marriage. In your marriage (and most other things in life), you will either be intentional to learn, grow, and improve or you will drift. Think of drifting as what happens when you are in the middle of the ocean in a boat without any power or the means to move yourself anywhere. Think of the movie Cast Away with Tom Hanks. When you are drifting, you will merely end up wherever the forces of nature happen to take you. You will feel utterly powerless…

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What They Can Never Take Away From Us by Brad Miller

What felt like the end of the world for us, was an opportunity for deeper connection in our marriage. I’m so glad we didn’t miss this opportunity. Here’s what happened. Tami and I fell in love at 17 and 18 years old, respectively. What a wonderful, fun time this was in our lives. Once we started dating, we enjoyed four foundational years of romance and were married by the time we were 21 and 22. We both came from humble backgrounds — so, in our new married life together, we had nothing except each other…

Read more…

How to Break Your Spouse’s Heart the Right Way by Brad Miller

If you are married, sooner or later you will have to deliver some difficult or heartbreaking news to your spouse. Maybe you got the phone call about your spouse’s dad being in a car accident. Or maybe it was the message that let you know your spouse did not get the job they’ve been working so hard to get. Let’s face it, life is hard at times. So, what’s the right way to handle these disappointments? I recently got some really heartbreaking news. I knew that I would need to…

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Your Marriage Doesn't Live Here Anymore by Brad Miller

This is a true story. There is a house that I drive by several times a week and have been doing so for years. Each time I drive past this house I can feel the weight of what happened there, or more accurately, what didn't happen there. At one point, when the "For Sale" sign went up, the weight became heavier still. And when the moving truck pulled away with the last of this house's former belongings, the weight for me was palpable. I have considered finding a new route that does not include…

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10 Things You Can Do Today To Take Your Marriage From Good To Great by Brad Miller

Let’s face it, everyone who is married or hopes to get married someday wants to have a great marriage. In fact, they probably want a phenomenal marriage. The problem is that not everyone knows how to have a great marriage, let alone a phenomenal one. Maybe great marriage skills were never modeled for you growing up. Maybe you and your spouse started off strong, but your marriage started to drift a bit off track and you’re not sure how to get it back on track…

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The Heart of Marriage and a FREE book! by Brad Miller

Every couple needs to spend quality time together. We refer to this as emotional connection, deep bonding, or just staying connected. We all know we need to do it, but few of us are intentional enough to pull it off. Life just seems to pulls us down and the quality of our relationships seems to wane with it. Tami and I recently read The Heart of Marriage. This is a collection of stories from dozens of authors (some of our favorites!) which is one of our favorite types of books to read together…

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Filter

Are You Saying, "I Love You" Too Much?

We often get great and insightful feedback from our social media followers. Recently we posted the picture on the left that says, "I don't tell you often enough, but I love you so much!" We received quite a few responses to this post. Most people loved sharing this post with their sweeties, but some were confused. In fact, we were surprised by how confused some couples were. The following comment summarizes the confusion very well. This particular wife said, “Mine [husband] doesn't think it's necessary to say it often…

Read more of this article

You Think You Know How Intimacy in Marriage Works, Unfortunately You Don’t

If we talk about "healthy intimacy" in marriage, we must be talking about having sex as often as a couple would like to, right? Nope! This thinking is dead wrong and will eventually undermine and can even ruin your marriage. It really can! Not to worry though because we would love to help you with a healthier view of intimacy, one that will keep your marriage happy and thriving for many years to come, instead of merely the next 15 minutes. To help us figure this out, let’s look to both science and the Bible because they both have much to say on the subject…

Read more of this article

Why We Wrote a Marriage Book That Everyone Needs but Nobody Wants

There is a great deal of solid information and teaching out there from some expert marketers on how to market products and services to people just like you. These experts in the field of marketing say that marketers (this includes us since we have books/products to sell) need to survey their potential market to find out where their customers are in life (not location), what they want, and to learn the language they use. Once that information is gathered, a good marketer can create a product specifically targeted to a group that…

Read more of this article

Most Couples Think They Struggle With Communication at Times. Most of Them are Wrong.

Tami and I operate a group counseling practice in Southern California. We are known throughout the area for providing the best and most practical marriage counseling around. We love this reputation. With ten licensed counselors and registered interns on our staff, we collectively see about 100 clients each and every week. All of this gives us some incredible insight into the kinds of things that most couples struggle with. Further, we know what it takes to get these couples back on track when needed…

Read more of this article

You Think Your Marriage is Safe From an Affair. Here’s Why You're Wrong.

Let me get right to the point. Marriage drift. This is a phrase we use to describe the lack of intentionality in marriage. In your marriage (and most other things in life), you will either be intentional to learn, grow, and improve or you will drift. Think of drifting as what happens when you are in the middle of the ocean in a boat without any power or the means to move yourself anywhere. Think of the movie Cast Away with Tom Hanks. When you are drifting, you will merely end up wherever the forces of nature happen to take you. You will feel utterly powerless…

Read more of this article

What They Can Never Take Away From Us

What felt like the end of the world for us, was an opportunity for deeper connection in our marriage. I’m so glad we didn’t miss this opportunity. Here’s what happened. Tami and I fell in love at 17 and 18 years old, respectively. What a wonderful, fun time this was in our lives. Once we started dating, we enjoyed four foundational years of romance and were married by the time we were 21 and 22. We both came from humble backgrounds — so, in our new married life together, we had nothing except each other…

Read more of this article

How to Break Your Spouse’s Heart the Right Way

If you are married, sooner or later you will have to deliver some difficult or heartbreaking news to your spouse. Maybe you got the phone call about your spouse’s dad being in a car accident. Or maybe it was the message that let you know your spouse did not get the job they’ve been working so hard to get. Let’s face it, life is hard at times. So, what’s the right way to handle these disappointments? I recently got some really heartbreaking news. I knew that I would need to…

Read more of this article

Your Marriage Doesn't Live Here Anymore

This is a true story. There is a house that I drive by several times a week and have been doing so for years. Each time I drive past this house I can feel the weight of what happened there, or more accurately, what didn't happen there. At one point, when the "For Sale" sign went up, the weight became heavier still. And when the moving truck pulled away with the last of this house's former belongings, the weight for me was palpable. I have considered finding a new route that does not include…

Read more of this article

10 Things You Can Do Today To Take Your Marriage From Good To Great

Let’s face it, everyone who is married or hopes to get married someday wants to have a great marriage. In fact, they probably want a phenomenal marriage. The problem is that not everyone knows how to have a great marriage, let alone a phenomenal one. Maybe great marriage skills were never modeled for you growing up. Maybe you and your spouse started off strong, but your marriage started to drift a bit off track and you’re not sure how to get it back on track…

Read more of this article

The Heart of Marriage and a FREE book!

Every couple needs to spend quality time together. We refer to this as emotional connection, deep bonding, or just staying connected. We all know we need to do it, but few of us are intentional enough to pull it off. Life just seems to pulls us down and the quality of our relationships seems to wane with it. Tami and I recently read The Heart of Marriage. This is a collection of stories from dozens of authors (some of our favorites!) which is one of our favorite types of books to read together…

Read more of this article

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