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Adding Spice to Your Marriage Does Not Have To Be What You've Been Told It Is by Brad Miller

Tami and I love to cook together. After a busy week of helping other couples navigate their marital challenges as well as managing a growing business, we love the idea of getting into another space in our heads and hearts. You see, it is all too easy for the two of us to only talk about running a business together because that is what we do the majority of the time. These conversations about work come to us easily because we are deeply immersed in running a business all week long…

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You Think You Know How Intimacy in Marriage Works, Unfortunately You Don’t by Brad Miller

If we talk about "healthy intimacy" in marriage, we must be talking about having sex as often as a couple would like to, right? Nope! This thinking is dead wrong and will eventually undermine and can even ruin your marriage. It really can! Not to worry though because we would love to help you with a healthier view of intimacy, one that will keep your marriage happy and thriving for many years to come, instead of merely the next 15 minutes. To help us figure this out, let’s look to both science and the Bible because they both have much to say on the subject…

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​Romantic Love is Great, But it Won’t Last Forever. And That is Good News. by Brad Miller

Tami and I have been married for over 32 years and we dated for 4 years before that. Additionally, Tami is a licensed marriage counselor and we have worked with many, many couples together over the years. Add to this the fact that I work in the neurology field and you will agree that together Tami and I have a pretty good grasp on both the psychology and science of relationships. Further, we love to share what we have learned with others just like you. We all know that the early stages of love brings us so much joy. Truth be told, there is a chemical cocktail of oxytocin, dopamine, serotonin….

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​At Some Point, the Majority of Spouses Will Wonder if They Married They Wrong Person. by Brad Miller

There is so much wrong with this line of thinking. We are not saying there is something wrong with you, by the way, since this line of thinking is so pervasive in our culture. This thinking will affect us all. So the job falls to us to teach you why this mindset is so flawed. This flawed thinking is based on the notion that there is one, and only one, perfect person for you on this planet. Only one! Remember that there are approximately 7.5 billion people on the planet. This “finding a needle in a haystack” kind of mentality tricks us into believing that when, not if, something feels wrong in our marriage…

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You Think Your Marriage is Safe From an Affair. Here’s Why You're Wrong. by Brad Miller

Let me get right to the point. Marriage drift. This is a phrase we use to describe the lack of intentionality in marriage. In your marriage (and most other things in life), you will either be intentional to learn, grow, and improve or you will drift. Think of drifting as what happens when you are in the middle of the ocean in a boat without any power or the means to move yourself anywhere. Think of the movie Cast Away with Tom Hanks. When you are drifting, you will merely end up wherever the forces of nature happen to take you. You will feel utterly powerless…

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The Heart of Marriage and a FREE book! by Brad Miller

Every couple needs to spend quality time together. We refer to this as emotional connection, deep bonding, or just staying connected. We all know we need to do it, but few of us are intentional enough to pull it off. Life just seems to pulls us down and the quality of our relationships seems to wane with it. Tami and I recently read The Heart of Marriage. This is a collection of stories from dozens of authors (some of our favorites!) which is one of our favorite types of books to read together…

Read more…

Can Valentines Day Be About More Than Candy Hearts? by Brad Miller

We have all heard people grumble about Valentines Day as, "Just another opportunity for Hallmark to take your money." Please allow us to challenge you in your thinking because Valentines Day is an opportunity for you to do something meaningful for your spouse. Further, when you're married, you never want to miss a chance to do something meaningful! Anyone who has been married for more than a year or two knows very well what it looks like when the honeymoon becomes…

Read more…

You Think You Know What Love is, But You Don't by Brad Miller

There is a feeling I get whenever things are dialed in between Tami and I. It is a feeling of wholeness, of being complete, of being cared for and needed by another human. And it is pure unadulterated bliss! I have desired this bliss for my children and friends as well, since with it, you can do anything! We call this state of bliss LOVE and while it's not hard to find, it's very difficult to keep and to keep thriving. So, how do we keep love alive? Dr. Sue Johnson, as well as those that…

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How Doing This One Simple Thing Can Strengthen Your Marriage by Brad Miller

Tami and I have been to several weddings in the last few weeks. This has us thinking a lot about how each of us is impacted by attending a wedding. Generally speaking, there are two ways that people think about a wedding they have been invited to. First, some people have a hard time getting "into it" because they have so much on their plates. They see this wedding, and all of the details surround it (buying gifts, wrapping gifts, attending bachelor/bachelorette parties…

Read more…

How Being a Student Has Taught Me to Love My Spouse Wholeheartedly by Brad Miller

Loving someone completely and consistently is difficult. We are selfish and flawed individuals who are fickle in more ways than we tend to admit. So, how do we continue to love our spouses wholeheartedly when we are so flawed and fickle? I have a few ideas for you that have served me well. I hope they serve you well, as well! Becoming a student of your spouse is more than just a clever catchphrase, it is a process that we have to fully understand and be…

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Adding Spice to Your Marriage Does Not Have To Be What You've Been Told It Is

Tami and I love to cook together. After a busy week of helping other couples navigate their marital challenges as well as managing a growing business, we love the idea of getting into another space in our heads and hearts. You see, it is all too easy for the two of us to only talk about running a business together because that is what we do the majority of the time. These conversations about work come to us easily because we are deeply immersed in running a business all week long…

Read more of this article

You Think You Know How Intimacy in Marriage Works, Unfortunately You Don’t

If we talk about "healthy intimacy" in marriage, we must be talking about having sex as often as a couple would like to, right? Nope! This thinking is dead wrong and will eventually undermine and can even ruin your marriage. It really can! Not to worry though because we would love to help you with a healthier view of intimacy, one that will keep your marriage happy and thriving for many years to come, instead of merely the next 15 minutes. To help us figure this out, let’s look to both science and the Bible because they both have much to say on the subject…

Read more of this article

​Romantic Love is Great, But it Won’t Last Forever. And That is Good News.

Tami and I have been married for over 32 years and we dated for 4 years before that. Additionally, Tami is a licensed marriage counselor and we have worked with many, many couples together over the years. Add to this the fact that I work in the neurology field and you will agree that together Tami and I have a pretty good grasp on both the psychology and science of relationships. Further, we love to share what we have learned with others just like you. We all know that the early stages of love brings us so much joy. Truth be told, there is a chemical cocktail of oxytocin, dopamine, serotonin….

Read more of this article

​At Some Point, the Majority of Spouses Will Wonder if They Married They Wrong Person.

There is so much wrong with this line of thinking. We are not saying there is something wrong with you, by the way, since this line of thinking is so pervasive in our culture. This thinking will affect us all. So the job falls to us to teach you why this mindset is so flawed. This flawed thinking is based on the notion that there is one, and only one, perfect person for you on this planet. Only one! Remember that there are approximately 7.5 billion people on the planet. This “finding a needle in a haystack” kind of mentality tricks us into believing that when, not if, something feels wrong in our marriage…

Read more of this article

You Think Your Marriage is Safe From an Affair. Here’s Why You're Wrong.

Let me get right to the point. Marriage drift. This is a phrase we use to describe the lack of intentionality in marriage. In your marriage (and most other things in life), you will either be intentional to learn, grow, and improve or you will drift. Think of drifting as what happens when you are in the middle of the ocean in a boat without any power or the means to move yourself anywhere. Think of the movie Cast Away with Tom Hanks. When you are drifting, you will merely end up wherever the forces of nature happen to take you. You will feel utterly powerless…

Read more of this article

The Heart of Marriage and a FREE book!

Every couple needs to spend quality time together. We refer to this as emotional connection, deep bonding, or just staying connected. We all know we need to do it, but few of us are intentional enough to pull it off. Life just seems to pulls us down and the quality of our relationships seems to wane with it. Tami and I recently read The Heart of Marriage. This is a collection of stories from dozens of authors (some of our favorites!) which is one of our favorite types of books to read together…

Read more of this article

Can Valentines Day Be About More Than Candy Hearts?

We have all heard people grumble about Valentines Day as, "Just another opportunity for Hallmark to take your money." Please allow us to challenge you in your thinking because Valentines Day is an opportunity for you to do something meaningful for your spouse. Further, when you're married, you never want to miss a chance to do something meaningful! Anyone who has been married for more than a year or two knows very well what it looks like when the honeymoon becomes…

Read more of this article

You Think You Know What Love is, But You Don't

There is a feeling I get whenever things are dialed in between Tami and I. It is a feeling of wholeness, of being complete, of being cared for and needed by another human. And it is pure unadulterated bliss! I have desired this bliss for my children and friends as well, since with it, you can do anything! We call this state of bliss LOVE and while it's not hard to find, it's very difficult to keep and to keep thriving. So, how do we keep love alive? Dr. Sue Johnson, as well as those that…

Read more of this article

How Doing This One Simple Thing Can Strengthen Your Marriage

Tami and I have been to several weddings in the last few weeks. This has us thinking a lot about how each of us is impacted by attending a wedding. Generally speaking, there are two ways that people think about a wedding they have been invited to. First, some people have a hard time getting "into it" because they have so much on their plates. They see this wedding, and all of the details surround it (buying gifts, wrapping gifts, attending bachelor/bachelorette parties…

Read more of this article

How Being a Student Has Taught Me to Love My Spouse Wholeheartedly

Loving someone completely and consistently is difficult. We are selfish and flawed individuals who are fickle in more ways than we tend to admit. So, how do we continue to love our spouses wholeheartedly when we are so flawed and fickle? I have a few ideas for you that have served me well. I hope they serve you well, as well! Becoming a student of your spouse is more than just a clever catchphrase, it is a process that we have to fully understand and be…

Read more of this article


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