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Those Who Think They Will Never Fall Out of Love Are at the Greatest Risk of Doing So

Everyone wants to find true love and have it last forever. The ugly little truth is that things don't always work out this way—and we all know it. Couples often ask us about the best ways to stay connected. The very fact that so many ask this question implies that early on in most marriages, couples become aware that things seem to be changing—and they are indeed. Can a husband and wife learn what to expect with these changes and how to stay well-connected in spite of them? Yes, they can. We would love to share with you a simple framework to accomplish just that…

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​Romantic Love is Great, But it Won’t Last Forever. And That is Good News.

Tami and I have been married for over 32 years and we dated for 4 years before that. Additionally, Tami is a licensed marriage counselor and we have worked with many, many couples together over the years. Add to this the fact that I work in the neurology field and you will agree that together Tami and I have a pretty good grasp on both the psychology and science of relationships. Further, we love to share what we have learned with others just like you. We all know that the early stages of love brings us so much joy. Truth be told, there is a chemical cocktail of oxytocin, dopamine, serotonin….

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​At Some Point, the Majority of Spouses Will Wonder if They Married They Wrong Person.

There is so much wrong with this line of thinking. We are not saying there is something wrong with you, by the way, since this line of thinking is so pervasive in our culture. This thinking will affect us all. So the job falls to us to teach you why this mindset is so flawed. This flawed thinking is based on the notion that there is one, and only one, perfect person for you on this planet. Only one! Remember that there are approximately 7.5 billion people on the planet. This “finding a needle in a haystack” kind of mentality tricks us into believing that when, not if, something feels wrong in our marriage…

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You Don’t Process Your Life in a Healthy Way, and it’s Killing You

We recently wrote, “What They Can Never Take Away From Us” which was a very difficult thing for us to write about. We were robbed and some of our most valuable possessions were taken from us. Forever gone. So, we decided to tell our story about what happened. At one point, someone said something like, “Yeah, but why would you force yourself to relive all of that when you can just forget it?” I thought, “Forget it? Really?” Are we, as humans, ever able to willingly just forget anything…

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What They Can Never Take Away From Us

What felt like the end of the world for us, was an opportunity for deeper connection in our marriage. I’m so glad we didn’t miss this opportunity. Here’s what happened. Tami and I fell in love at 17 and 18 years old, respectively. What a wonderful, fun time this was in our lives. Once we started dating, we enjoyed four foundational years of romance and were married by the time we were 21 and 22. We both came from humble backgrounds — so, in our new married life together, we had nothing except each other, but in each other we had everything we needed…

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Those Who Think They Will Never Fall Out of Love Are at the Greatest Risk of Doing So

Everyone wants to find true love and have it last forever. The ugly little truth is that things don't always work out this way—and we all know it. Couples often ask us about the best ways to stay connected. The very fact that so many ask this question implies that early on in most marriages, couples become aware that things seem to be changing—and they are indeed. Can a husband and wife learn what to expect with these changes and how to stay well-connected in spite of them? Yes, they can. We would love to share with you a simple framework to accomplish just that…

READ MORE of the article above…
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​Romantic Love is Great, But it Won’t Last Forever. And That is Good News.

Tami and I have been married for over 32 years and we dated for 4 years before that. Additionally, Tami is a licensed marriage counselor and we have worked with many, many couples together over the years. Add to this the fact that I work in the neurology field and you will agree that together Tami and I have a pretty good grasp on both the psychology and science of relationships. Further, we love to share what we have learned with others just like you. We all know that the early stages of love brings us so much joy. Truth be told, there is a chemical cocktail of oxytocin, dopamine, serotonin….

READ MORE of the article above…
Comments

​At Some Point, the Majority of Spouses Will Wonder if They Married They Wrong Person.

There is so much wrong with this line of thinking. We are not saying there is something wrong with you, by the way, since this line of thinking is so pervasive in our culture. This thinking will affect us all. So the job falls to us to teach you why this mindset is so flawed. This flawed thinking is based on the notion that there is one, and only one, perfect person for you on this planet. Only one! Remember that there are approximately 7.5 billion people on the planet. This “finding a needle in a haystack” kind of mentality tricks us into believing that when, not if, something feels wrong in our marriage…

READ MORE of the article above…
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You Don’t Process Your Life in a Healthy Way, and it’s Killing You

We recently wrote, “What They Can Never Take Away From Us” which was a very difficult thing for us to write about. We were robbed and some of our most valuable possessions were taken from us. Forever gone. So, we decided to tell our story about what happened. At one point, someone said something like, “Yeah, but why would you force yourself to relive all of that when you can just forget it?” I thought, “Forget it? Really?” Are we, as humans, ever able to willingly just forget anything…

READ MORE of the article above…
Comments

What They Can Never Take Away From Us

What felt like the end of the world for us, was an opportunity for deeper connection in our marriage. I’m so glad we didn’t miss this opportunity. Here’s what happened. Tami and I fell in love at 17 and 18 years old, respectively. What a wonderful, fun time this was in our lives. Once we started dating, we enjoyed four foundational years of romance and were married by the time we were 21 and 22. We both came from humble backgrounds — so, in our new married life together, we had nothing except each other, but in each other we had everything we needed…

READ MORE of the article above…
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