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Tandem Marriage
These books (all in alphabetical order) are some of our favorite marriage books. We have read these over the course of many years. These were written by authors who have inspired us greatly.
We hope you love them as much as we do!

These books (all in alphabetical order) are some of our favorite marriage books. We have read these over the course of many years. These were written by authors who have inspired us greatly.
We hope you love them as much as we do!

    • Marriage
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      Before You Say "I Do": A Marriage Preparation Guide for Couples
      Is marriage on your mind? Have you found "the one"? This popular and helpful interactive workbook is designed to strengthen your love relationship and deepen your bond. You'll find all you need for fun and thoughtful discussions as you explore vital areas, including:
      What does the Bible teach about marriage?
      What makes you feel loved?
      How do you handle conflicts?
      Do you plan to have children? Why or why not?
      What are your priorities when it comes to money? And more.

      http://amzn.to/1rWAMVh

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      A classic! ~TM
      Boundaries in Marriage
      Learn when to say yes and when to say no--to your spouse and to others--to make the most of your marriage. Only when a husband and wife know and respect each other’s needs, choices, and freedom can they give themselves freely and lovingly to one another. Boundaries are the “property lines” that define and protect husbands and wives as individuals. Once they are in place, a good marriage can become better, and a less-than-satisfying one can even be saved.

      http://amzn.to/1TQGaT2

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      Created for Connection: The "Hold Me Tight" Guide for Christian Couples
      Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.--1 John 4:8 Are you looking to enrich a healthy relationship, revitalize a tired one, or rescue one gone awry? Do you yearn to grow closer to God, and to further incorporate Him and His teachings into your marriage? We all want a lifetime of love, support, and faith. But sometimes we need a little help. Enter Dr. Sue Johnson, developer of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and the best couple therapist in the world, according to bestselling relationship expert Dr. John Gottman. In CREATED FOR CONNECTION, Dr. Johnson and Kenneth Sanderfer, a leading EFT practitioner in the Christian community, share Johnson's groundbreaking and remarkably successful program for creating stronger, more secure relationships not only between partners, but between us and God.

      http://amzn.to/2fz2yGz

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      Fighting for Your Marriage: Enhancing Marriage and Preventing Divorce
      The third edition of the best-selling classic on marriage enhancement and divorce prevention, features the latest research and changes of heart in our culture and society. New and revised, Fighting for Your Marriage is based on the widely acclaimed PREP (Prevention and Relationship Enhancement Program) approach. Groundbreaking studies have found that couples can use the strategies of this approach to handle conflict more constructively, protect their happiness, and reduce the odds of breaking up.

      http://amzn.to/1rWCeah

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      This book is as good as you’ve heard! ~TM
      The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts
      Falling in love is easy. Staying in love—that’s the challenge! How can you keep your relationship fresh and growing amid the demands, conflicts, and just plain boredom of everyday life? In the #1 New York Times bestseller The 5 Love Languages, you’ll discover the secret that has transformed millions of relationships worldwide.

      http://amzn.to/1TFjDWs

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      This is one of our favorite marriage books! ~TM
      Finally, you can understand her!
      If you’re like most men, you’ve burned up lots of energy trying to figure out what a woman wants, what makes her tick, how to make her happy. There is good news: success is simpler than you ever thought. In their groundbreaking classic, For Men Only, Jeff and Shaunti reveal the eye-opening truths and simple acts that will radically improve your relationship with the woman you love.

      http://amzn.to/27eapux

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      This is one of our favorite marriage books! ~TM
      Discover the Truth He Wants You to Know
      The man in your life carries important feelings so deep inside he barely knows they’re there, much less how to talk about them. Yet your man genuinely wants you to “get” him—to understand his inner life, to know his fears and needs, to hear what he wishes he could tell you.

      http://amzn.to/1q0TIB3

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      We would read anything that Dr. Dobson writes! ~TM
      Head Over Heels: How to Fall in Love and Land on Your Feet
      Everybody wants to fall in love, but so many relationships end in heartbreak instead of happily-ever-after. Now one of the nation's most trusted voices on family relationships, Dr. James Dobson, offers this practical guide to love--what it is and what it isn't--for couples and dating singles. First and foremost, Dr. Dobson wants everyone who is looking for love to understand the myth vs. the reality of emotions, and Head Over Heels includes the one-of-a-kind What Do You Believe About Love? quiz to help readers separate fact from fiction.

      http://amzn.to/1T5pWqp

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      Hold Me Tight
      Heralded by the New York Times and Time magazine as the couple therapy with the highest rate of success, Emotionally Focused Therapy works because it views the love relationship as an attachment bond. This idea, once controversial, is now supported by science, and has become widely popular among therapists around the world.
      In Hold me Tight, Dr. Sue Johnson presents Emotionally Focused Therapy to the general public for the first time. Johnson teaches that the way to save and enrich a relationship is to reestablish safe emotional connection and preserve the attachment bond. With this in mind, she focuses on key moments in a relationship-from Recognizing the Demon Dialogue to Revisiting a Rocky Moment-and uses them as touchpoints for seven healing conversations. Through case studies from her practice, illuminating advice, and practical exercises, couples will learn how to nurture their relationships and ensure a lifetime of love.

      http://amzn.to/24pOCf5

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      Hope For the Separated: Wounded Marriages Can Be Healed
      The unfortunate reality is that Christians are separating and divorcing at the same rate as the unbelieving world. But does separation have to mean the end? You may not feel like reconciling. You may not see hope for a reunion. But the biblical ideal for a separated couple is reconciliation. So how do you do it?
      When doors slam and angry words fly, when things just aren't working out, and even when your spouse has abandoned your trust, there is hope. Hope for the Separated will show you through God's Word that your marriage can be restored.

      http://amzn.to/23I3LZ4

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      Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs
      A wife has one driving need―to feel loved. When that need is met, she is happy. A husband has one driving need―to feel respected. When that need is met, he is happy. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy. Love and Respect reveals why spouses react negatively to each other, and how they can deal with such conflict quickly, easily, and biblically.

      http://amzn.to/1T5olkg

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      Night Light: A Devotional for Couples
      Now for the first time in softcover! Whether you're just married or are celebrating your golden anniversary, you need regular, quiet moments with your mate―times to renew love and intimacy with each other and with the Lord. Night Light, by Dr. James Dobson and his wife, Shirley, will help you do just that.

      http://amzn.to/1T6nNaz

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      Ready to Surrender: Learning to Resolve Marriage Conflict Before it Kills You
      We all struggle at times with conflict in our marriages. What if it were possible to resolve conflict with less collateral damage in our relationships? Most marriage books teach you how to love more, understand more deeply, and give you creative date night ideas. And those are great, but Ready to Surrender is the first book to show you how to systematically de-escalate a conflict in your marriage. Further, marriages with fewer unresolved conflicts are happier and have a better chance to last a lifetime!

      https://tandemmarriage.com/surrender/

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      This book is blew us away. ~TM
      Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy?
      Happy is good. Holy is better.
      Your marriage is more than a sacred covenant with another person. It is a spiritual discipline designed to help you know God better, trust him more fully, and love him more deeply. What if God’s primary intent for your marriage isn’t to make you happy . . . but holy? Sacred Marriage doesn't just offer techniques to make a marriage happier. It does contain practical tools, but what married Christians most need is help in becoming holier husbands and wives.

      http://amzn.to/1T6nNaz

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      Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts: Questions to Ask Before — and After — You Marry
      More than a million couples can’t be wrong! And with this updated edition of their award-winning book, Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott help you launch lifelong love like never before. This is more than a book—it’s an experience, especially when you use the his/her workbooks filled with more than 40 fun exercises. Get ready for deeper intimacy with the best friend you’ll ever have.

      http://amzn.to/23I189E

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      The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert
      With more than a million copies sold worldwide, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work has revolutionized the way we understand, repair, and strengthen marriages. John Gottman's unprecedented study of couples over a period of years has allowed him to observe the habits that can make—and break—a marriage.

      http://amzn.to/1TbcVue

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      Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage
      With his characteristic warmth and humor, Dr. Kevin Leman offers a practical guide to sex according to God's plan. This frank and practical book is a perfect resource for married and engaged couples. Dr. Leman addresses a wide spectrum of people, from those with no sexual experiences to those with past sexual problems or even abuse. Using frank descriptions, this book has a warm and friendly tone that will help couples overcome awkwardness in discussing an issue important to all married couples.

      http://amzn.to/1TQFltB

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      The Heart of Marriage: Stories That Celebrate the Adventure of Life Together
      The best marriages are not necessarily the most perfect and picturesque. Marriage is about walking together through all of life's ups and downs, its challenges and triumphs. And no relationship offers more chances for personal and spiritual growth, love and support, and just plain fun.
      Collecting true stories from some of today's best writers, Dawn Camp offers readers a chance to sit back and reflect on the heart of marriage. With beautiful photographs and poignant prose, this collection is a great gift for the bride-to-be, the couple celebrating a significant anniversary, or for any time readers need a lift. Contributors include Holley Gerth, Kristen Welch, Emily Wierenga, Renee Swope, and many more.

      http://amzn.to/2nGFg0i

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      This is so simple and approachable. ~TM
      Thirty-one Days to Great Sex
      Do you yearn to feel truly intimate with your spouse? Do you wish you enjoyed a sex life that was alive, rather than one that was rather dull? Do you have this overwhelming feeling like you're missing out on something, that God had so much more planned for your marriage, but you can't quite figure out how to get there?

      http://amzn.to/27efdQC

    • Men
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      Every Man's Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time (The Every Man Series)
      The challenge every man faces...the fight every man can win!
      From movies and television, to print media and the Internet, men are constantly faced with the assault of sensual images. It is impossible to avoid such temptations... but, thankfully, not impossible to confront them and gain victory over them!
      Millions have found Every Man’s Battle the single greatest resource for overcoming the struggle and remaining strong in the face of temptation. With extensive updates for a new generation, this phenomenal bestseller shares the stories of dozens who have escaped the trap of sexual immorality and presents a practical, detailed plan for any man who desires sexual integrity.

      http://amzn.to/1sqopRM

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      Every Man's Marriage: An Every Man's Guide to Winning the Heart of a Woman (The Every Man Series)
      What every man wishes he knew about what his wife desires most.
      Authors Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker believe that every man can meet the secret desires of his wife. The problem is, most of us aren't exactly sure what that desire is and how we can go about fulfilling it faithfully.
      In Every Man's Marriage, you can discover the common misconceptions about what it means to exercise biblical authority and understand the role of submission in the marriage relationship. This groundbreaking book can help men grasp and apply essential but often overlooked principles for marital leadership.

      http://amzn.to/1ZeLfXd

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      For Men Only, Revised and Updated Edition: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women
      “Shaunti and Jeff have unearthed a treasure chest of insights—eye-opening and life-changing.”
      —Andy Stanley, senior pastor, North Point Community Church
      Finally, you can understand her!
      If you’re like most men, you’ve burned up lots of energy trying to figure out what a woman wants, what makes her tick, how to make her happy.
      The good news: success is simpler than you ever thought. In their groundbreaking classic, For Men Only, Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn reveal the eye-opening truths and simple acts that will radically improve your relationship with the woman you love.

      http://amzn.to/1WxDqOg

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      For Young Men Only: A Guy's Guide to the Alien Gender
      Just for guys…the inside scoop on girls from the girls themselves.
      Okay, the authors aren't girls. But to bring you the facts they surveyed more than 1,000 of them. Every teen guy wants to know how girls are wired, what they want, and how they really think…
      Or at least how to talk to a girl without feeling like an idiot.
      Here's your chance to find out..

      http://amzn.to/1WxCU2K

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      The Game Plan: The Men's 30-Day Strategy for Attaining Sexual Integrity
      Men everywhere are under attack-your neighbor, your coworker, your pastor, even your husband. And, even in Christian homes, 40% of men have fallen to this foe that can destroy marriages and ruin lives.
      Who is this devastating adversary? Pornography. It floods our airwaves and PCs, assaulting the senses, and luring its prey to return again and again.
      Drawing from seventeen years of counseling practice, and using material that he's taught for more than ten years, Joe Dallas is helping readers face this enemy. Equipping those who have been caught up in pornography or other forms of sexual sin with the ability to abandon that behavior and never return.

      http://amzn.to/1ZeKSfl

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      The Good Dad: Becoming the Father You Were Meant to Be
      It’s never too late to be a better father
      Jim Daly, president and CEO of Focus on the Family, is an expert in fatherhood―in part because his own "fathers" failed him so badly. His biological dad was an alcoholic. His stepfather deserted him. His foster father accused Jim of trying to kill him. All were out of Jim's life by the time he turned 13.
      Isn’t it odd―and reminiscent of the hand of God―that the director of the leading organization on family turned out to be a guy whose own background as a kid and son were pretty messed up? Or could it be that successful parenting is discovered not in the perfect, peaceful household but in the midst of battles and messy situations, where God must constantly be called to the scene?

      http://amzn.to/284BYXu

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      The Man's Guide to Women: Scientifically Proven Secrets from the "Love Lab" About What Women Really Want
      Results from world-renowned relationship expert John Gottman’s famous Love Lab have proven an incredible truth: Men make or break relationships. Based on 40 years of research, The Man’s Guide to Women unlocks the mystery of how to attract, satisfy, and succeed with a woman for a lifetime. For the first time ever, there is a science-based answer to the age-old question: What do women really want in a man?
      Dr. Gottman, author of the New York Times bestseller The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, and his wife and collaborator, clinical psychologist Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD, have pored over the research along with bestselling coauthors Douglas Abrams and Rachel Carlton Abrams, MD. Together, they have written this definitive guide for men, providing answers on everything from how to approach a woman and build a connection with her to how to truly satisfy her in bed and know when the relationship is on the right track. The Man’s Guide to Women is a must-have playbook for how to play―and win―the game of love.

      http://amzn.to/1UtZ8g1

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      Wild at Heart Revised and Updated: Discovering the Secret of a Man's Soul
      Every man was once a boy. And every little has dreams, big dreams, dreams of being the hero, of beating the bad guys, of doing daring feats and rescuing the damsel in distress. Every little girl has dreams, too: of being rescued by her prince and swept up into a great adventure, knowing that she is the beauty.
      But what happens to those dreams when we grow up? Walk into most churches, have a look around, and ask yourself: What is a Christian man? Without listening to what is said, look at what you find there. Most Christian men are . . . bored.

      http://amzn.to/1RP0BLW

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      Worthy of Her Trust: What You Need to Do to Rebuild Sexual Integrity and Win Her Back
      Few challenges in life are as difficult as regaining a wife’s trust—and few are as ultimately worthwhile. Trust can be rebuilt in your marriage! With patient, loving, self-sacrificing effort, it’s possible that one day your wife will risk her heart with you again. And she may even have more respect and love for you than before.

      http://amzn.to/1TQEOrm

    • Women
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      A Dad-Shaped Hole in My Heart
      "A Dad-Shaped Hole in My Heart" speaks to all women who carry wounds from their dads-including emotional, physical, and spiritual absenteeism. It is relevant for any woman who did not get what she needed from her dad-whether he was in the home or absent from the home. Wright, the author of the #1 bestseller, "Always Daddy's Girl", points women to acceptance of their heavenly Father's love and grace to repair the damage as the author helps them through the healing process.

      http://amzn.to/1U0bIrd

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      A Woman's Forbidden Emotion
      Did you know that it is okay to get angry? In fact, anger is a proper and godly response to some of the challenges we face. Written specifically for women and counselors, this insightful and practical book corrects the popular notion that good Christian women should never get angry--not for any reason, not at anyone, not ever. While the Bible admonishes believers to be long-suffering, it also shows how anger can be a vital tool in God's hands for bringing about needed change.

      http://amzn.to/1TYifBE

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      Captivating Revised and Updated: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman's Soul
      Every woman was once a little girl. And every little girl holds in her heart her most precious dreams. She longs to be swept up into a romance, to play an irreplaceable role in a great adventure, to be the beauty of the story. Those desires are far more than child's play. They are the secret to the feminine heart.
      And yet?how many women do you know who ever find that life? As the years pass by, the heart of a woman gets pushed aside, wounded, buried. She finds no romance except in novels, no adventure except on television, and she doubts very much that she will ever be the Beauty in any tale.

      http://amzn.to/1VzGCru

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      Every Heart Restored: A Wife's Guide to Healing in the Wake of a Husband's Sexual Sin
      Wholeness and Healing for Women Caught in the Crossfire.
      As the wife of a man who is addicted to lust, pornography, or masturbation, you are not alone. Millions of men can’t get through the day or the week without clicking on to their favorite Internet porn sites, thumbing through adult magazines, or watching sensual videos–and millions of wives suffer as a result.
      Over the past decade, nearly 400,000 men have found inspiration and hope in Every Man’s Battle, the best-selling men’s guide to victory over sexual sin. Now, here at last is the book for every woman who has become a casualty in the fight for sexual purity. Every Heart Restored offers godly guidance and wisdom for a woman facing such personal betrayal.

      http://amzn.to/1ZgN2uM

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      Every Woman's Marriage: Igniting the Joy and Passion You Both Desire
      Set Your Husband’s Heart Ablaze
      Are you a “desperate housewife,” committed to marriage yet longing for a deeper, more intimate connection with your husband? Believe it or not, you can have the marriage you long for–if you’re willing to take desperate measures.
      If you’re ready to stop the blame game and pursue the marriage of your dreams, let authors Shannon and Greg Ethridge show you how to reignite your relationship with spiritual, emotional, and physical passion. Drawing on real-life stories from both men and women, as well as lessons from their own less-than-satisfying early years of marriage, they offer provaocative insights about what it takes to nurture a dynamic marriage, including…

      http://amzn.to/1UiIq3c

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      For Women Only, Revised and Updated Edition: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men
      Discover the Truth He Wants You to Know!
      The man in your life carries important feelings so deep inside he barely knows they’re there, much less how to talk about them. Yet your man genuinely wants you to “get” him—to understand his inner life, to know his fears and needs, to hear what he wishes he could tell you.
      In this landmark bestseller, For Women Only, Shaunti Feldhahn reveals what every woman—single or married—needs to know. Based on rigorous research with thousands of men, Shaunti delivers one eye-opening revelation after another.

      http://amzn.to/1TYi1dD

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      For Young Women Only: What You Need to Know About How Guys Think
      Guys will be guys. And now girls can know what that means! For Young Women Only dives into the mysterious inner-workings of the teenage male mind so that you can begin to understand why guys say and do what they do. Exploring critical topics including respect, insecurity, appearance, physical affection, and the “tough and tender”-ness of guys, this book is also packed with “ask the expert” sections, quotes, and fun personal stories from guys in all walks of life. Why is he so visually stimulated? You may wish it weren’t so, but that won’t make it so. I don’t want to put on a front for him to like me. Actually, he wants your genuineness, too! This book will help you grasp how God wired the opposite sex so you can enjoy your relationships with them.

      http://amzn.to/1UiFe7S

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      The Mom Factor: Dealing with the Mother You Had, Didn't Have, or Still Contend With
      From the very beginning, you relied on her for things no one else could give you. How she met those needs -- or didn't meet them -- affected you daily as a child. And still affects you profoundly as an adult. For every son or daughter who wonders if things should have been different . . . for every man or woman who wonders if they still couldn't be . . . here's a life-changing look at The Mom Factor. She shaped you in ways that would surprise you both. No one has influenced the person you are today like your mother. The way she handled your needs as a child has shaped your worldview, your relationships, your marriage, your career, your self-image -- your life. How can you identify areas that need reshaping, make positive choices for personal change, and establish a balanced, mature relationship with Mom today?

      http://amzn.to/1UxxjGc

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      Uninvited: Living Loved When You Feel Less Than, Left Out, and Lonely
      The enemy wants us to feel rejected . . . left out, lonely, and less than.
      In Uninvited, Lysa shares her own deeply personal experiences of rejection--from the perceived judgment of the perfectly toned woman one elliptical over to the incredibly painful childhood abandonment by her father. She leans in to honestly examine the roots of rejection, as well as rejection's ability to poison relationships from the inside out, including our relationship with God.

      Uninvited reminds us we are destined for a love that can never be diminished, tarnished, shaken, or taken--a love that does not reject or uninvite.


      http://amzn.to/2ozr4qV

    • Parenting
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      Boundaries with Kids: When to Say Yes, When to Say No, to Help Your Children Gain Control of Their Lives
      What the award-winning Boundaries has done for adult relationships, Boundaries with Kids will do for you and your children Here is the help you need for raising your kids to take responsibility for their actions, attitudes, and emotions. Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend take you through the ins and outs of instilling the kind of character in your children that will help them lead balanced, productive, and fulfilling adult lives. Learn how to • set limits and still be a loving parent • bring control to an out-of-control family life • apply the ten laws of boundaries to parenting • define appropriate boundaries and consequences for your kids … and much more. “Boundaries with Kids helps us give our kids the skills they need to live realistic and full lives in meaningful relationships. Not perfect—but healthy!” —Elisa Morgan, president of MOPS International, Inc.

      http://amzn.to/1Po7uts

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      Boundaries with Teens: When to Say Yes, How to Say NoBoundaries_With_Teens
      Teenagers! You love them to pieces … but sometimes you feel like the pieces are falling apart Relax! Your sanity will survive these rocky teenage years, and so will your teens―provided you set healthy boundaries that work to their benefit and yours. Boundaries with Teens shows you how. From bestselling author and counselor Dr. John Townsend, here is the expert insight and guidance you need to help your teens take responsibility for their actions, attitudes, and emotions and gain a deeper appreciation and respect both for you and for themselves. With wisdom and empathy, Dr. Townsend, a father of two teens himself, applies biblically based principles for the challenging task of guiding your children through the teen years. He shows you how to: • deal with disrespectful attitudes and impossible behavior in your teen • set healthy limits and realistic consequences • be loving and caring while establishing rules • determine specific strategies to deal with problems both big and small Discover how your teenager thinks. Learn how to apply biblical principles to specific problems. Boundaries with Teens can help you establish wise and loving limits that make a positive difference in your adolescent, in the rest of your family, and in you.

      http://amzn.to/1U0fQri

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      Chatter Matters
      Families playing this award-winning game will find themselves digging through memories and finding buried treasure. To advance around the board, players (two or more) choose cards with questions such as "What person from the past or present would you like to invite to dinner?" There are no wrong answers, and progress around the board is mostly based on the luck of the dice. But the joy of the game is in listening carefully to how your family members or friends answer questions about you. Some questions ask one player to look at another and tell a story from the past, almost always flattering. The game was named one of the top 10 by the Dr. Toy rating service in 1997. --Sally James

      http://amzn.to/1TYkBAi

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      Effective Parenting in a Defective World (Focus on the Family)
      A parent's greatest desire is to raise a child who can face anything with wisdom and confidence. But in a world of over-extended schedules, amoral messages, and incessant peer-pressure, how can you raise a confident child that follows God's will, not the world's? Chip Ingram's practical tips for modeling right living, building strong bonds, and disciplining effectively will help parents bringing up Christ-centered kids who feel secure and significant no matter what comes their way. The book features practical, age-appropriate parenting tips, charts/diagrams, and action steps.

      http://amzn.to/1UxBH89

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      For Parents Only: Getting Inside the Head of Your Kid
      For every bewildered parent, there’s a kid longing to be understood.
      What parent hasn’t occasionally looked at their beloved but bewildering offspring and wondered, What in the world is he thinking? or Why is my sweet little girl acting like that?
      In this remarkable book, Shaunti Feldhahn and Lisa Rice take you inside the mind of teens and preteens through the same innovative approach that seized national attention in the best-selling books For Women Only, For Men Only, and For Young Women Only. They explore the results of a nationwide survey and personal interviews with more than 1,000 real-life teens and tweens to tackle those things parents often don’t “get” about their kids. You’ll hear first-hand about the longings that drive your kids’ seemingly illogical decisions, the truth behind those exasperating “attitude problems,” and what your children would tell you if they could trust you to truly listen.

      http://amzn.to/1Po6BB3

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      Helping Your Struggling Teenager
      What Do You Do When Your Teenager Is in Trouble? Where do you turn for dependable, expert advice? Start here. Helping Your Struggling Teenager gives you the practical information you need as a parent on thirty-six common, critical concerns your child may face. From drug and alcohol abuse to parental divorce and premarital sex, professional Christian counselor Les Parrott gives you essential insights not only on specific issues, but also on how to offer effective help as a parent. Topics are arranged in alphabetical order. Each chapter sheds light on several vital questions: What does the specific struggle look like? Why did it happen? How can a counselor help? When should a counselor consult another professional, and where can he or she find additional resources? Arranged in two sections, this book first gives you the basics of being an effective helper. Then it informs you on the different struggles of teenagers.

      http://amzn.to/1Po7klN

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      Helping Your Kids Deal with Anger, Fear, and Sadness
      No parent likes to see their child struggle, especially with dark emotions like anger, fear, and depression. Family counselor and bestselling author Norm Wright addresses these emotional issues in a compassionate, family-friendly way that will help parents to communicate more freely with their children.
      Included in this interactive parenting manual are conversational guidelines and learning activities for children that encourage them to work through these difficult emotions. Parents will gain keen insights into the cause of these intense moods and develop sound principles in dealing effectively with them.

      http://amzn.to/1TYkg0I

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      Losing Control and Liking It: How to Set Your Teen (and Yourself) Free
      Parents of teens―especially Christian ones―know only too well that many sons and daughters abandon the “straight and narrow” when they hit adulthood. The pressure on these parents to make their kids turn out right is enormous. Sometimes this pressure can lead parents to think they have to control their kids. Losing Control and Liking It offers parents relief of a burden they were never meant to carry and will help build family relationships based on validation and nurturing instead of control.

      http://amzn.to/1Po8MVq

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      Parenting Isn't for Cowards: The 'You Can Do It' Guide for Hassled Parents
      Does your heart skip a beat when you think of all that could go wrong in the parenting years ahead? Anxiety is normal, but your worst fears don’t have to become reality. Speaking both as a therapist and a father―and drawing on a landmark study of thirty-five thousand parents―Dr. James Dobson helps you . . .
      • prevent child-rearing troubles before they happen
      • banish your guilt about hard-to-raise children
      • protect your sanity during a child’s adolescence
      • restore your energy when you’re facing burnout
      • enhance your relationships with your kids
      With more than one million copies sold, this confidence-building classic will help you experience the full joy of parenthood―and what may be the greatest sense of fulfillment you’ll ever know.

      http://amzn.to/1sqVYmN

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      Sacred Parenting: How Raising Children Shapes Our Souls
      Parenting is a school for spiritual formation―and our children are our teachers. The journey of caring for, rearing, training, and loving our children will profoundly alter us forever. Sacred Parenting is unlike any other parenting book you have ever read. This is not a “how-to” book that teaches you ways to discipline your kids or help them achieve their full potential. Instead of discussing how parents can change their kids, Sacred Parenting turns the tables and demonstrates how God uses our kids to change us. You’ve read all the method books. Now take a step back and receive some much-needed inspiration. You’ll be encouraged by stories that tell how other parents handled the challenges and difficulties of being a parent―and how their children transformed their relationship with God. Sacred Parenting affirms the spiritual value of being a parent, showing you the holy potential of the parent-child relationship.

      http://amzn.to/1UxEwWZ

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      The New Strong-Willed Child
      Is a willful little darling driving you to distraction? The New Strong-Willed Child is the resource you need―a classic bestseller completely rewritten, updated, and expanded for a new generation of parents and teachers. Challenging as they are to raise, strong-willed children can grow up to be men and women of strong character―if lovingly guided with understanding and the right kind of discipline. Find out what Dr. James Dobson, today’s most trusted authority on parenting, has to say about what makes strong-willed children the way they are; shaping the will while protecting the spirit; avoiding the most common parenting mistake; and much more. If you are struggling to raise and teach children who are convinced they should be able to live by their own rules, The New Strong-Willed Child is a must-read! (This new edition is part of Dr. James Dobson’s Building A Family Legacy initiative.)

      http://amzn.to/1ZgOm0N

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      When Things Get Crazy with Your Teen: The Why, the How, and What to do Now
      No, it’s not easy raising teenagers. Yes, there are sane solutions--in this problem-solving parent’s guide from the bestselling author of Yes, Your Teen Is Crazy
      How should you respond when your teen comes home late? Wears inappropriate clothes? Is pregnant, or flunking out? You’ll find the answers here--right at your fingertips--in this quick-reference manual from one of the leading experts on adolescent behavior. As someone who has counseled hundreds of teens in his practice and as a father of two teens himself, Dr. Michael Bradley understands how teenagers can drive you crazy. Offering practical “first response” advice, he tells you exactly what to do and what NOT to do in about every scenario you’ll ever face with your kid,from messy rooms and monstrous moods to drug abuse and depression.

      http://amzn.to/1sqVVay

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      Yes, Your Teen is Crazy!: Loving Your Kid Without Losing Your Mind
      Bradley, a psychologist drawing on current brain research, argues that teenagers are basically nuts. While 95 percent of the brain develops in early childhood, the most advanced parts aren't completed until adolescence is nearly over. As a result, teens can appear unstable, dysfunctional and unpredictable, with temporarily impaired judgment and decision-making processes. In addition, Bradley argues, contemporary culture further challenges teens' thinking capabilities; the prevalence of sex, drugs and violence makes the teen's job of cognitive balancing even more precarious. The good news is that parents do make a difference, and Bradley clearly explains how parents can encourage and guide their kids through these tumultuous years. Stressing that teens are still "children," Bradley encourages parents to respond like "dispassionate cops," teaching and remaining calm even when teens behave outrageously.

      http://amzn.to/1PoaDcE

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      Beyond Boundaries: Learning to Trust Again in Relationships
      How do you know you’re ready to trust again … and what does it take to be ready?
      Painful relationships violate our trust, causing us to close our hearts. But to experience the freedom and love God designed us for, we eventually have to take another risk.
      In this breakthrough book, bestselling author Dr. John Townsend takes you beyond the pain of the past to discover how to re-enter a life of intimate relationships. Whether you’re trying to restore a current relationship or begin a new one, Townsend gives practical tools for establishing trust and finding the intimacy you long for.

      http://amzn.to/1XTt5LQ

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      Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life
      Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Boundaries impact all areas of our lives: Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances -- Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions -- Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others -- Spiritual boundaries help us to distinguish God's will from our own and give us renewed awe for our Creator -- Often, Christians focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limits and limitations. When confronted with their lack of boundaries, they ask:

      http://amzn.to/1ZgSIEZ

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      Experiencing Grief
      At one time or another, we will all find ourselves facing a dark journey—the passage through grief. Experiencing Grief is written for a person who is in the wake of despair grief leaves. This brief but powerful book will help lead readers out of their grief experience through five stages of grief. At the end of the journey is peace and a seasoned, more mature faith.

      http://amzn.to/1PoboT3

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      God Will Make a Way: What to Do When You Don't Know What to Do
      In this best-selling, award-winning book, now in paperback, Drs. Cloud and Townsend introduce eight persuasive principles that demonstrate how God enters both the heart-breaking situation and the life looking for more. These principles are applied to readers' lives so that their relationships will be better, they'll have more control over their lives, and their spiritual hunger will be satisfied.

      http://amzn.to/1TYkCV6

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      Good Grief: 50th Anniversary Edition
      For fifty years Good Grief has helped millions of readers, including NFL players and a former first lady, find comfort and rediscover hope after loss. Now this classic text is available in a new edition with a foreword by one of the nation's leading communicators of medical health care information. An afterword by the author's daughters tells how the book came to be.
      Good Grief identifies ten stages of grief--shock, emotion, depression, physical distress, panic, guilt, anger, resistance, hope, and acceptance but, recognizing that grief is complex and deeply personal, defines no "right" way to grieve. Good Grief offers valuable insights on the emotional and physical responses persons may experience during the natural process of grieving. The anniversary gift edition includes space for readers to record thoughts about their personal experience with grief.

      http://amzn.to/1PobKZU

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      In, But Not Of Revised and Updated:
      A Guide to Christian Ambition and the Desire to Influence the World
      Influence is not accidental. It is earned. In, But Not Of charts the course to acquiring influence over the life of a career while remaining committed to the commands and example of Christ.
      Broadcast journalist and law professor Hugh Hewitt not only challenges us to become more engaged in steering the course of history through politics, law, finance, and entertainment, but he also maps out simple, effective strategies that will enable us to bring our visions of influence to pass.
      Along with Hugh's simple and helpful advice, the study guide in the back focuses on key selections and questions to help the reader, whether in group or individual sessions, internalize these valuable principles and make a difference in the world. Divided into Think About It, Find Out More, and Take Action, the guide concludes with a Summary of Your Decisions to serve as a quick reference for years to come.

      http://amzn.to/1Pod1Al

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      Rising Strong
      When we deny our stories, they define us.
      When we own our stories, we get to write the ending.
      Social scientist Brené Brown has ignited a global conversation on courage, vulnerability, shame, and worthiness. Her pioneering work uncovered a profound truth: Vulnerability—the willingness to show up and be seen with no guarantee of outcome—is the only path to more love, belonging, creativity, and joy. But living a brave life is not always easy: We are, inevitably, going to stumble and fall.
      It is the rise from falling that Brown takes as her subject in Rising Strong. As a grounded theory researcher, Brown has listened as a range of people—from leaders in Fortune 500 companies and the military to artists, couples in long-term relationships, teachers, and parents—shared their stories of being brave, falling, and getting back up. She asked herself, What do these people with strong and loving relationships, leaders nurturing creativity, artists pushing innovation, and clergy walking with people through faith and mystery have in common? The answer was clear: They recognize the power of emotion and they’re not afraid to lean in to discomfort.

      http://amzn.to/1RTXd2v

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      Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't
      Too many of us have invested ourselves into relationships that left us deeply wounded. We've been abandoned or taken advantage of, and left with little to show for what we've given. We've lost our sense of security and personal value in the process. And what's worse, we tend to either repeat the same mistakes of judgment over and over . . . Or else lock the doors of our hearts entirely and throw away the key. Why do we choose the wrong people to get involved with? Is it possible to change? And if so, where does one begin? Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend offer solid guidance for making safe choices in relationships, from friendships to romance. They help identify the nurturing people we all need in our lives, as well as ones we need to learn to avoid. Safe People will help you to recognize 20 traits of relationally untrustworthy people. Discover what makes some people relationally safe, and how to avoid unhealthy entanglements. You'll learn about things within yourself that jeopardize your relational security. And you'll find out what to do and what not to do to develop a balanced, healthy approach to relationships.

      http://amzn.to/1TYj8tZ

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      The Anger Workbook: An Interactive Guide to Anger Management
      Most people stereotype anger by assuming that it always results in shouting, slamming fists, or throwing things. However, anger is not that one-dimensional.

      In fact, all of the statements below represent feelings of anger:
      * When I am displeased with someone I shut down any communication and withdraw.
      * I get very tense inside as I tackle a demanding task.
      * I feel frustrated when i see someone else having fewer struggles than I.
      * There are times when my discouragement just makes me want to call it quits.
      * I can be quite aggressive in my business pursuits or even when just playing a game.

      http://amzn.to/20Us6dt

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      The Anxiety Cure
      Panic Anxiety is the number one mental health problem for women and second only to drug abuse among men. Synthetic tranquilizers can alleviate the symptoms of anxiety illnesses. However, in order to achieve lasting emotional tranquility, a significant lifestyle change must be made. The Anxiety Cure provides proven, natural strategies for overcoming panic disorder and finding an emotional balance in today's fast-paced world.

      http://amzn.to/22FuqXr

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      The Sacred Search: What If It's Not about Who You Marry, But Why?
      What if you stopped looking for a “soul mate” and started looking for a “sole mate”—someone who will live out with you the great purpose of God? What if dating isn’t about finding “the one” but making a wise choice so you can better serve the One who loves you most? What if God didn’t design relationships to make you happy but to make you holy?
      In The Sacred Search, Gary Thomas will transform the way you look at romantic relationships. Whether you are single, dating, or engaged, Gary’s unique perspective on dating will prepare you for a satisfying, spiritually enriching marriage even before you walk down the aisle. As Gary reminds us, a good marriage is not something you find—it’s something you make.

      http://amzn.to/1PoeeaK

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      Unlocking Your Family Patterns: Finding Freedom From a Hurtful Past
      Revised and updated from the original, this honest and forthright look at families of all shapes and sizes will help you down the path of healing (whether you know you need it or whether you're just not sure).
      Unlocking Your Family Patterns combines decades worth of counseling wisdom and pastoral care insights into this one practical resource. Your past may hurt, and your family's patterns may have left emotional scars, but your future has not been laid in stone yet. There is hope for healing, there are lessons to learn, and there are paths toward family health.

      http://amzn.to/1UxGruw

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