Marriage Coaching with Brad & Tami Miller
Marriage Coaching with us is as simple as 1, 2, 3.
FIRST - Read through this FAQ section to learn a bit more. Click on the questions below to see the answers to them.
SECOND - Fill out the inquiry form below to see if we are a good fit for each other.
THIRD - Start imagining the ways you will enjoy a healthier marriage!
Thanks for your interest in our ability to help couples like you to thrive.
Helping you to enjoy your ride through life together,
- 1. How do I know that Brad & Tami can understand and handle my marriage challenges?
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We know how you feel.
You feel tired of working so hard on your marriage with little or no positive change. You certainly want something to change, but you aren't sure what needs to change, and you may not have the energy to change it if you understood what needs to change.
You think, "Where did this all begin to go off track and down this lonely and difficult road?" And, "What if we can never get back to where we should be?"
We know how you feel for two reasons:
First, we have been there too. We had to work hard to discover bad relational habits, unlearn what we thought was true, and roll up our sleeves to do the work — because getting our marriage in a better place was what was best for us, our kids, our community, and most of all as image bearers of God.
Second, we have used those skills and many more for over 25 years to help other couples climb out of the "life-draining pit of an unhealthy marriage" into a much better place.
This means:
1. We have proven to ourselves and those around us that we can have a great marriage. 👩🏻🤝👨🏼❤️
2. We have helped hundreds and hundreds of other couples do the same. ☺️
3. We can help you too. We can help, and we will help! 🙌🏼
Keep in mind that the two of us have a "statistical disadvantage" when it comes to being married. This is because all of the statistics that factor in family of origin research say the two of us should no longer be married, let alone happily married, yet we beat those odds. And, if we can do it, then you can do it too, and we can show you how.
Between the two of us, we have backgrounds in clinical psychology, pastoral counseling, marriage mentoring, parenting, church planting, church leadership, premarital counseling, and more.
Tami Miller is a Marriage & Family Therapist, Retired. She no longer works in the capacity of a therapist.—————
But still, your marriage challenges feel very unique to you. And even though they feel unique, your challenges are actually not entirely unique.
We have been working with couples for over 25 years and when we say that we have seen it all, we mean it. Here is an abbreviated list of the marriage challenges we have helped couples to work through:- Communication challenges
- Conflict and escalating tension in a marriage
- Defensiveness
- Anger
- Stonewalling
- Intimacy struggles
- Lying and trust issues
- Different life goals
- Parenting challenges
- Selfishness
- Lack of support for each other
- Unforgiveness
- Infidelity
- and more…
Yes, we can help you too. If you want a marriage that honors God better than what you are doing now, we can help! - 2. Do Brad & Tami work with individuals, or just couples?
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We feel deeply called and highly effective when working with a married couple, as a married couple. This is why we do not work with individuals. We are so sorry.
We only work with couples.
Most of the time, we will all work together (both of you and both of us) to help your marriage thrive. This means the two of us will be meeting with the two of you most of the time. There are times when individual sessions are extremely helpful as well, all for the purpose of supporting a thriving marriage. - 3. Do Brad & Tami work with all couples?
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At this time, we are only working with committed Christian couples. We feel strongly that Christians should have the best marriages (marriage was God's idea, after all), this is where we have unique strengths, and this is where our time is best spent. We also feel strongly that our calling is to help others to honor God with and through their marriages.
When working with a committed Christian couple, there is a common language and a common motivation that we can tap into to help your marriage to thrive sooner than we could otherwise.
This is a win for all involved since we are working in our sweet spot to help you find your sweet spot in marriage again.
Whether you are newly married or have been married for over 50 years, if you are a committed Christian couple, we can help you to get back on track and to stay there. - 4. What is marriage coaching like?
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We have always been big fans of marriage help, for some, this will be in the form of marriage coaching and for others this may be in the form of marriage counseling. We would define "marriage coaching" as a goal-oriented process of having another couple who is more experienced than you to come alongside you and your spouse to help you both see things you have missed and to help you see those things from a fresh, new perspective — a perspective that is actually helpful. Marriage coaching is highly relational and less focused on modalities than marriage counseling would be. Also, in marriage coaching, we have more freedom to share stories and experiences from our own lives, and the lives of others, that would likely be helpful to you. You would be less likely to get this perspective from marriage counseling. We have spent many years in each role (coaching/counseling) and use the best from both worlds.
There is a fair amount of overlap between counseling and coaching. And although Tami retired her counseling license (MFT), we still use many of the same skills she learned as a counselor/therapist.
Sessions typically begin by following up on things that were discussed in the previous session and determining the benefit to your marriage. Sometimes, we will help you work through a recent conflict or disagreement and teach you how to work toward future resolution in the process. We will always unpack the things that were helpful and celebrate those together with you. After that, we will continue working on your marriage goals and reassessing your progress along the way.
When you reach your marriage goals, we may decide collectively that you are done or we may decide to reduce the frequency of our sessions together.
All things considered, our clients overwhelmingly enjoy working with the two of us, and they enjoy the process as well. Sure, there will be some conflict along the way since that is what we are helping with, but overall this is a very enjoyable process — especially once you realize how long you have been stuck in the same place in your marriage and that you are finally making progress together!
Since we are used to working with couples from all across America, we will conduct coaching sessions over Zoom video with very few exceptions. - 5. How much does marriage coaching cost? And what about insurance?
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We charge $200 per coaching hour (typically 50-55 minutes), which we also refer to as a coaching session. Also, we do not bill for these sessions until a few days before or after the session. This means if you add 5 appointments to our schedule, for example, you will NOT have to pay for those when you add them, only when it's close to the scheduled appointment time.
You are likely contacting us about marriage coaching either because nothing else you have tried has improved your situation OR because someone you know has told you about the great work we do with couples.
If nothing else has worked, it may be precisely because you have tried your best not to spend any money to get your marriage back on track — how has that worked for you so far? Maybe it's finally time for you to stop wasting time, get serious about living your best life with your spouse, and devote some time and money to getting the help your marriage needs to thrive.
If you have heard about us from someone else, we are humbled and honored. We work hard to help others have God-honoring marriages and every time we accomplish this, we all win! A wise fisherman once said, "A rising tide raises all ships." We think this applies to marriages as well.
P.S. There are some really sweet testimonies below from people who have benefitted from what we have to offer.
We use Square Appointments to allow our clients to schedule their own appointments and manage which credit card(s) they have on file with us. Most of the time, we will charge your credit card after our scheduled appointment time, but there are instances in the case of a late cancelations where we might need to charge your card before the scheduled time.
INSURANCE:
We do not bill insurance companies, and we know that this will make it more difficult for some of you to make a decision about working with us. We are sorry about that. We have chosen to spend NO time working with insurance companies so we can spend more time working with our clients. Furthermore, many insurance companies will dictate what is allowed in sessions as well as the number of sessions. It is our job to get to know you well and to understand what is best for your marriage, not for that to be dictated by someone you will never meet at your insurance company. Some insurance companies will reimburse you for "out of network therapy," but it would be up to you to understand how that works and to submit your own reimbursement requests to them. - 6. How can we get started?
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Below, you will find a Marriage Coaching Inquiry Form. Filling out this form will allow us to make sure that we have room on our schedule for you and that we are a good fit for each other.
Once we receive that form from you, we will typically get back to you in a few days. If we are a good fit for each other and have room on our coaching schedule, we will send you a link to fill out a consent form, to make an appointment on our online schedule, and to attach a credit card to that appointment for future payment. Attaching your credit card means more time for us to work together because there is less time dealing with payment issues.
The consent form is required due to Tami's previous licensure as a Marriage & Family Therapist in the State of California. Tami has now retired her license. Rest assured, we have worked hard to make this simple for you. It takes most couples less than 15 minutes to complete and submit the consent form and to make your first appointment with us. - 7. Are all marriage coaching sessions done via Zoom?
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Yes.
Since we are working with couples from all over the country, Zoom meetings (video) just make the most sense.
For those of you who live in our local area of Southern California and think you would prefer to meet in person, we would rarely be able to do so since we are often traveling. Being able to meet via Zoom will feel very comfortable and engaging for you both and will allow us to meet consistently. We are convinced that this will be very convenient for you as well. - 8. When do you typically see clients?
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We currently see clients on Tuesday and Thursday evenings (typically 5-8 pm), as well as Wednesdays midday (typically 10 am-1 pm). We are on the West Coast of the United States and in the PST time zone, so those times my be a little different where you are.
If you are able to be flexible and meet with us when we have availability (if, for example, you work remotely or can set your own schedule), then we will have the most success seeing you in the beginning. Clients that have seen us for a while, know to schedule the times they prefer as soon as they open up on our 90-day rolling availably schedule. - 9. If marriage coaching with Brad & Tami doesn't work for us, are there any other options?
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Yes! Please check out our Marriage Coaching On Demand page here. https://TandemMarriage.com/members/
This is a member's only page where we sell a 3-month subscription (currently $100) to many of the same things we teach in our live marriage coaching, but for a fraction of the cost. If $200 per session for our marriage coaching is more than you can afford, then our Marriage Coaching On Demand is for you.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ's) About Coaching
Answered by Brad & Tami
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Do you want to know if we (Brad & Tami) can help your marriage thrive?
What people are saying about the help we provide…
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My husband has known Brad and Tami since he was a teen. Both have guided him through many challenging stages in his early 20s. We didn’t have to think twice when we chose Brad to marry us, and both him and Tami to provide premarital counseling. Often times there is a stigma to have a perfect marriage, Brad and Tami taught us how to embrace the imperfections and make our marriage perfect for "team us." Through their guidance, real life experiences, and books, we have learned the necessary building blocks to a successful marriage.
— Joey & Maloree Nigg —
Thank you for helping us get to a healthy place in our relationship. We are grateful for all the tools we have gained from both of you, and it’s rewarding to see that they actually work when we choose to use them. God bless you both and May you continue to do His good work!
— Kyle and Donna Deeters —
We stopped having the same argument every weekend. For us this is huge. Thanks for pouring your heart into the marriage coaching on demand. It was just what we needed.
— Josh and Amber Morris —
Tandem Marriage Coaching with Brad and Tami Miller has been a game-changer for my wife and I! Even after 29 years of marriage, we finally committed to seeking professional support. We wish we would have done this decades ago! The healing and growth that we both have experienced is due largely to Brad's and Tami's insights, wisdom, guidance, tender care, and advice. This marriage coaching service is worth every penny of the investment and we would enthusiastically recommend anyone, at any stage of marriage, to commit to it!
— Pastor Brian Burson, Sandals Church —
We love you two! You're an insane blessing in our lives. It was great to have a few more laughs in our last conversation - crazy that you said we would be able to laugh again one day and I didn't believe it, but we are getting there. The tools you've given us have helped us grow together, thank you for the follow-ups.
You both helped me to see that I was running to the wrong things (the easy ones) and away from the right ones (the more difficult ones). That just made things worse and more difficult in marriage. I know better now and will work on this.
I have real hope in a healthier, stronger relationship! We love you guys, thank you for everything you do for us. Praying God blesses you.
— Dillan & Kelli Anders —
First and foremost, we want you to know that our marriage is healthy and happy in ways that just keep getting better because of the impacts that Brad & Tami have had on our marriage. God is truly leading us one day at a time. Sometimes it is hour by hour or even minute by minute. But thankfully we learned well from you. You effectively equipped us with the knowledge, skills, and tools to grow healthier despite the inevitable hurts and challenges of the past.
We are forever changed.
— Guy & Mary Eggrichs —
Thank you Brad and Tami! We are so grateful for your counseling. We often use the “of course” phrase we learned from you, and we’ve been able to share the trust metaphors we learned with a lot of our married friends who went through similar situations. We also use the Feeling Words Chart often because it has been such a helpful tool for us. haha! You guys had a lasting impact on our marriage and we are so thankful for how you allow the Lord to use you ♥️.
— Pete & Mikayla Adamson —
Marriage Coaching Acknowledgment & Consent Form (IMPORTANT)
Please fill in the form below to give us consent to begin marriage coaching with you. There is a SUBMIT button on the last screen that will send this form directly to us.
You will need to type both sets of your initials 13 times on the consent form (sorry), but you can copy and paste if you'd like.
You are assuming the responsibilty for your spouse to understand what is on this form since you are essntially signing their name.
EXAMPLE: Since we are Brad Miller and Tami Miller, on the Consent Form we would type "BM TM" and then just copy/paste for the rest of the form.
After the Consent Form is submitted, you will see our private calendar for marriage coaching. We suggest making 2-4 weekly appointments per month which will give us some good momentum. Obviously, 4 appointments in a month will give you more progress/momentun than 1 or 2 appointments will. Our calendar is always open 90 days out, so check back weekly since new appointments will open up each week. While scheduling, you will have an opportunity to add a credit card which will allow us to bill your card AFTER your scheduled appointment.
1. Suicidal Ideation or threats to harm oneself
2. Homicidal Ideation or threats to harm someone else
3. Child abuse (sexual, physical, emotional, verbal or neglect)
4. Elder abuse (sexual, financial, physical, emotional, verbal or neglect)
5. Dependent Person abuse (sexual, financial, physical, emotional, verbal or neglect)
6. Downloading or distributing, filming, texting or sharing child pornography, sex with minors (a minor is any person under the age of 18)
I have had the opportunity to ask any questions and they have been answered clearly.
This Marriage Coaching Consent Form, together with your first appointment, will serve as your authorization to start marriage coaching with us. Are you ready to start this journey toward a better, more-fulfilling marriage?
Click SUBMIT below to send us your consent form and get the link to schedule your marriage coaching session(s).
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Thank you so much for trusting us to help with your marriage, your trust means the world to us.
Brad & Tami
P.S. Below is the Square Appointments link for scheduling your appointments with us. This is the service we use. Since you are responsible to schedule your own appointments, we will not be able to start marriage coaching until you have scheduled some appointments with us.
The embedded scheduler below is a quick and easy way to make appointments. The button above will take you to our schedule on Square's site. Both options should work to schedule your appointments, but all of your personal settings (email address, credit card, appointment history, etc.) reside on Square's secure site.
Our Online Scheduling Calendar for Coaching
The embedded scheduler below is a quick and easy way to make appointments. The button below will take you to our schedule on Square's site. Both options should work to schedule your appointments, but all of your personal settings (email address, credit card, appointment history, etc.) reside on Square's secure site and can be accessed by using the button.
Feel free to bookmark this web address for your future use. The blue button below only serves as a backup in case our calendar widget (below) is not displaying properly on your browser.
- 1. Can I manage my own appointments?
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We are so glad you’ve asked! YES, YOU CAN!
Yes, we prefer that you do make and cancel your own appointments because it is quicker for you and for us too. We do have the appointment widget embedded in our page (above), but you can also use the dark blue button below to go directly to our Square appointment and payment page (non-embedded) anytime you need to. It is essentially the same page!Here is a step-by-step tutorial:
First, use the dark blue button below to go to the non-embedded version of our appointments page.Second, click the hamburger icon (3 lines) in the top-right corner to get a drop-down menu. Look for the blue "Sign-in" link at the bottom of the page and select it. (See below)
Third, enter the phone number you used when you setup your Square appointments account with Tandem Marriage. (See below)
Fourth, enter the 6-digit sign-in code that was sent to you as a text message and sign-in. (See below)
From the next screen, you can either schedule your new appointments while already logged in, or to cancel or reschedule appointments:
Click on the hamburger icon (3 lines) in the top-right corner,
Then go to "My Account,"
Then go to "Bookings" and select the date/time that you wish to cancel
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Confirm that the day/time you have selected is correct (shown in the red box below).
Then click the gray CANCEL button (shown by the red arrow). Once you have canceled successfully, you will receive and email confirming your cancelation.
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That's it! 👍🏼 - 2. What should I expect once my credit card is on file?
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First, we need to have gained your trust if you are going to let us help with your marriage. Therefore we would NEVER do anything to break that trust by abusing your credit card. Having your credit card saved to your Square payments account simply allows us to seamlessly charge your credit card for your appointments without having to utilize any more of your time AND it's pretty quick for us too. After your appointment, it only takes us about 30 seconds to run your credit card if you have added it to your scheduling profile. That allows us to focus more on our time together and less on payment details.
Plain and simple! - 3. How do I change or update the credit card that is used to make payments?
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First, use the dark blue button below to go to the non-embedded version of our appointments page.Second, click the hamburger icon (3 lines) in the top-right corner to get a drop-down menu. Look for the blue "Sign-in" link at the bottom of the page and select it. (See below)
Third, enter the phone number you used when you setup your Square appointments account with Tandem Marriage. (See below)
Fourth, enter the 6-digit sign-in code that was sent to you as a text message and sign-in. (See below)
Fifth, click on the hamburger icon again, then go down to "My Account" and select. (See below)
Once you have securely logged into your account, just go to "Cards on file" to update your credit card information. (See below)
That's it! 👍🏼
How to use Square Appointments / Payments (FAQs)
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