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Marriage Coaching with Brad & Tami Miller

Marriage Coaching with us is a simple as 1, 2, 3.

FIRST - Read through this page to learn a bit more.
SECOND - Fill out the inquiry form below to see if we are a good fit for each other.
THIRD - Start imagining the ways you will enjoy a healthier marriage!

We are Brad & Tami Miller. We have been working together to help couples have better marriages for over 25 years. We have been married ourselves for over 35 years and have two adult children who are also married. We also have two grandchildren.

It is very rare to find marriage coaching FROM a married couple. Rarer still is our unique and practical relational style, our combined mentoring/counseling experience, and our 35+ years of living out the kind of thriving marriage we can teach you to have. We are living proof that we can help you in your marriage.

You will love working with us, and doing so is pretty simple EXCEPT for the the legal and technical issues surrrounding Tami's licensure as a Marriage & Family Therapist. Rest assured, once we are on the same page with those considerations, we will be ready to help your marriage THRIVE!

A LITTLE MORE BACKGROUND:
Brad Miller has been involved in helping couples through many roles; as a coach, marriage mentor, pastoral teacher, conference speaker, marriage officiant, and author. Brad is known for his work and teaching in the areas of communication challenges, conflict resolution, healthy views about sex, parenting, and more.

Tami Miller, LMFT, is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the State of California. In her clinical role as a therapist, she specializes in working with married couples who need help recovering from an affair, overcoming sexual intimacy issues, communication challenges, conflict resolution, and family dynamics. Tami also shares several roles with Brad, most notably, conference speaker and author.

Together, the two of us have over 25 years of experience in providing marriage coaching, life coaching, and business coaching to others.

WHO WE COACH:
The best fit for our skillset and experience are couples who have been married 1-50 years, who consider themselves committed Christians, who may or may not have children, and don't want to settle for anything less then the life and marriage that God desires for them. We really can help. (By the way, we have worked with plenty of couples who are not Christians and we enjoy doing so, but there is a common language and a common motivation that we can tap into with Chirsitan couples to really help them THRIVE!)

If you are a client who is new to marriage coaching, or a current therapy client transitioning from Psychotherapy to marriage coaching, please review the following information, fill out and submit the inquiry form below, and wait to hear back from us (usually a few days).

Please do not hesitate to ask any questions in the spaces provided because we desire this process to be both beneficial to your marriage and free from surprises. Again, we are more than happy to answer any questions you may have.


Your marriage is worth fighting for,


What You Can Expect From Marriage Coaching

We see marriage coaching as our way to work ourselves out of a job doing marriage counseling/therapy. It makes the most sense to us to be proactive when it comes to having a healthy marriage, this means that we can working with you now to keep you from ending up in a therapist's office 5-10 years from now. The section below should help you to understand this important difference between marriage coaching and marriage counseling.

What is marriage coaching and how is it different from marriage counseling?

Marriage coaching is goal centered (example: Where do you want your marriage to be in 1 year, 5 years, etc?) and forward focused. Life/marriage coaches help their clients to focus on identifying and moving towards personal, relational and, at times, professional goals. Through focused coaching support, clients can learn healthy and helpful ways of navigating through relationship challenges so they can get on with creating a life that they can be excited about — a life that they have always dreamed about.

Marriage counseling, on the other hand, is typically more about identifying past issues and traumas and learning how to work through them or recover from them. For example, when there has been a significant marital trauma, like an affair, marriage counseling can be beneficial to uncover long-standing behavior patterns, coping machanisms, and triggers.

It is interesting for most people to learn that mariage coaching feels similar to counseling because both are rooted in the same clinical theory, often drawing on the work of Dr. Carl Rogers, Dr. Alfred Adler, and Dr. Carl Jung.

Rogers, Adler and Jung saw individuals as fully capable artists of their lives, and frequently involved their clients in goal setting and life planning. These are all tenets and approaches in today’s coaching methods.

Coaching takes the best of those approaches, along with some newer ones, such as:

  • Working with married couples to help them define life dreams and goals
  • Formulating plans that will foster and grow your marriage relationship
  • Helping you to navigate difficult challenges while trying to reach your goals
  • Teaching useful tools and providing materials to assist you
  • Helping you with focus and accountability
  • Providing structure, encouragement and support
  • Providing intentional and empathetic listening

What happens if I need a therapist instead of a life/marriage coach?

If after our first session, or at some point during our marriage coaching work together, it is apparent that you would be better supported by Psychotherapy, and you are not located in California (the State Tami is licensed in as a Marriage and Family Therapist), we will do our best to provide you with clinical referrals in your area. If you are located within the State of California, and would prefer to work with Tami in her Psychotherapist's role, we can discuss this and, as long as it best supports what you hope to achieve in counseling, and falls under her scope of practice, she may be able to provide therapeutic support for you. If another Therapist would be a better fit for you, we will help you to understand that as well.

In our marriage coaching role, it is important to understand that while we may draw on particular aspects of coaching that are used in both disciplines (caoching and counseling), such as intentional listening, affirming, encouraging, reflecting, and supporting with empathy, we do not work in both roles at the same time with our marriage coaching clients. This would be considered operating in a “dual role.” Providing counseling and coaching at the same time is not something that clinical therapists can ethically engage in, nor should a life coach do so without proper clinical training and psychotherapy licensing.

Tami is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, and marriage coaching has aspects that are similar to counseling. Should we decide to work together, it is important for you to understand that our role and work as a marriage coaches is separate from Tami’s role as a Marriage & Family Therapist.

If you feel that marriage coaching is the type of support you currently want and need, you are welcome to submit the Marriage Coaching Inquiry form below. Because it is important for us to be able to offer exactly what you are in need of, the two of us will review the inquiry to determine if we are a good fit for you and your spouse.

What is the cost of marriage coaching with Brad & Tami Miller?

We charge $200 per session hour regardless of who is in that days coaching session. Since it is our specialty to work as a couple, with a couple, having all four of us in a coaching session will typically be the norm and the goal, although breakout sessions may be beneficial from time to time. Coaching sessions are 55 minutes per session hour and two session hours (or 110 minutes) can be scheduled as well.

Many counseling couples struggle to agree on whether they want their therapist to be male, with male understanding and insights, or felmale, with female understanding and insights. When you do your marriage coaching with us, your get both built in anf this benefits you and your mariage since we can make progress toward your goals faster.


If you are ready to see if we are a good fit for each other, click the button below to fill out and submit our online Marriage Coaching Inquiry Form.

What people are saying about us…


  • My husband has known Brad and Tami since he was a teen. Both have guided him through many challenging stages in his early 20s. We didn’t have to think twice when we chose Brad to marry us, and both him and Tami to provide premarital counseling. Often times there is a stigma to have a perfect marriage, Brad and Tami taught us how to embrace the imperfections and make our marriage perfect for team us. Through their guidance and real life experiences, we have learned the necessary building blocks to a successful marriage.

    — Joey & Maloree Nigg


  • It's been hard for us to find credible marriage coaches. Most people talk a big game but can't deliver. Tandem Marriage is different. Brad and Tami are a real couple who have had real struggles. They overcame their struggles and did a great job and helping us with our struggles. I'd say they are the real deal. We received practical tools and practical help.

    — Matt and Susie Nikitin


  • We met Brad & Tami through our church when we were in a rough spot. We thought we needed some communication tools, but they helped us to realize that when our conversations get heated is when we get into trouble. Brad & Tami taught us how to recognize what was happening and how to keep it from happening. We are forever grateful and happy again.

    — Hunter McCall

Marriage Coaching Acknowledgment Form

Please read the following information and submit this form to us along with the initial deposit of $200 (there will be a payment link on the final page of this online form) to acknowledge your agreement herein and start your life coaching journey!

You will need to type your initials 13 times (sorry), but you can copy and paste if you'd like.
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I understand that Brad & Tami Miller will be providing me with marriage coaching support and not Clinical Psychotherapy
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I understand that Tami Miller will not be acting as my Psychotherapist, nor will she be working with me as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.
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I understand that if I have formerly worked with Tami Miller as a clinical therapy client, she will have sole discretion regarding taking me/us on as a marriage coaching client.
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I understand that I am free to terminate marriage coaching services at any time, or request a transition to Psychotherapy, or a referral to a Psychotherapist.
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I understand that should I request a transition in working with Tami Miller, LMFT as a Psychotherapist, that Tami Miller cannot provide clinical services outside of the state of California where she is licensed.
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I understand that Tami Miller may refer me to an outside therapist if she believes I would be better supported by a different mode of counseling service, or different level of clinical support.
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I understand that email, texting, and phone calls cannot be guaranteed as confidential, and contacting, sending, or receiving forms or information via internet or phone is done at my discretion and I will assume any risks involved.
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I understand that while I will be working with Brad and/or Tami Miller as marriage coaches, because of the license that Tami Miller holds, she is mandated to report the following:

1. Suicidal Ideation or threats to harm oneself
2. Homicidal Ideation or threats to harm someone else
3. Child abuse (sexual, physical, emotional, verbal or neglect)
4. Elder abuse (sexual, financial, physical, emotional, verbal or neglect)
5. Dependent Person abuse (sexual, financial, physical, emotional, verbal or neglect)
6. Downloading or distributing, filming, texting or sharing child pornography, sex with minors (a minor is any person under the age of 18)
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I understand that Brad & Tami Miller provide marriage coaching sessions via internet video (usually Zoom) or phone (as a back-up) and it is my responsibility to keep track of my sessions and join in on the scheduled day and time of my session.
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I agree to the life coaching session fee of $200 per 55-minute session, and understand that the fee is due and payable no later than 3 days before each coaching session. (You will be reminded of this cancellation policy when you pay for sessions.)
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I agree to honor my scheduled sessions and understand that the cancellation policy requires me to cancel at least 72 hours in advance of my session or the full fee is due.
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I agree to honor contact boundaries outside of my marriage coaching sessions. This means you are welcome to send us brief emails and updates, but should not expect any immediate response. This also means that most longer emails would be better addressed in a session. If you aren't sure, just ask.
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I agree to assume any risk and liability as the result of my marriage coaching work with Brad & Tami Miller and my initials below confirm that I am working with them at my own request, and that I clearly understand the difference between marriage coaching and Psychotherapy services.
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I understand that I am exercising my own choice to work with Brad & Tami Miller. Furthermore, any life choices I make following our coaching sessions are my choices alone and any consequences of my choices, positive or negative, are mine alone, and that I will not legally hold Brad Miller or Tami Miller personally or professionally responsible for my coaching outcome and choices, nor will I hold Tandem Marriage or Restoration Counseling Service or any other person, organization, structure, assets, or affiliates associated personally or professionally with Brad Miller or Tami Miller legally or financially liable for the results of my choices and my work with Brad & Tami Miller.

I have had the opportunity to ask any questions and they have been answered clearly:
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That's it!

This Marriage Coaching Consent Form together with your first appointment and $200 deposit will serve as your authorization to start marriage coaching with us. ARE YOU GETTING EXCITED YET?

Click SUBMIT below to send us your consent form.
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We received your Marriage Coaching Acknowledgment Form at Tandem Marriage headquarters!
Thanks again for trusting us to help you reach your marriage goals. We are passionate about helping couples to have amazing, Christ-centered marriages.

If you haven't already scheduled one or more marriage coaching sessions online, you can do so here:
https://tandemmarriage.com/coaching/?schedule

During our first session together, we will spend some time talking about where you currently are in your marriage and where you want to be. We want you both to be thinking about this and talking together about this before we meet. Remember, that the goal of two healthy spouses who want a great marriage, is not to think alike, but to think through things together. It's ok if you don't start with the same marriage goals — that's why we are here.

See you both soon!

Thanks a million!
Brad & Tami of Tandem Marriage 👩🏻‍🤝‍👨🏼
https://TandemMarriage.com
This email is FROM a MARRIAGE COACHING CONSENT to Tandem Marriage.

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1. I understand that Brad & Tami Miller will be providing me with marriage coaching support and not Clinical Psychotherapy.
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2. I understand that Tami Miller will not be acting as my Psychotherapist, nor will she be working with me as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.
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3. I understand that if I have formerly worked with Tami Miller as a clinical therapy client, she will have sole discretion regarding taking me/us on as a marriage coaching client.

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4. I understand that I am free to terminate marriage coaching services at any time, or request a transition to Psychotherapy, or a referral to a Psychotherapist.
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5. I understand that should I request a transition in working with Tami Miller, LMFT as a Psychotherapist, that Tami Miller cannot provide clinical services outside of the state of California where she is licensed.
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6. I understand that Tami Miller may refer me to an outside therapist if she believes I would be better supported by a different mode of counseling service, or different level of clinical support.
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7. I understand that email, texting, and phone calls cannot be guaranteed as confidential, and contacting, sending, or receiving forms or information via internet or phone is done at my discretion and I will assume any risks involved.
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8. I understand that while I will be working with Brad and/or Tami Miller as marriage coaches, because of the license that Tami Miller holds, she is mandated to report the following:
1. Suicidal Ideation or threats to harm oneself

2. Homicidal Ideation or threats to harm someone else

3. Child abuse (sexual, physical, emotional, verbal or neglect)

4. Elder abuse (sexual, financial, physical, emotional, verbal or neglect)

5. Dependent Person abuse (sexual, financial, physical, emotional, verbal or neglect)

6. Downloading or distributing, filming, texting or sharing child pornography, sex with minors (a minor is any person under the age of 18)

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9. I understand that Brad & Tami Miller provide marriage coaching sessions via internet video (usually Zoom) or phone (as a back-up) and it is my responsibility to keep track of my sessions and join in on the scheduled day and time of my session.
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10. I agree to the life coaching session fee of $200 per 55-minute session, and understand that the fee is due and payable no later than 3 days before each coaching session. (You will be reminded of this cancellation policy when you pay for sessions.)
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11. I agree to honor my scheduled sessions and understand that the cancellation policy requires me to cancel at least 72 hours in advance of my session or the full fee is due.
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12. I agree to honor contact boundaries outside of my marriage coaching sessions. This means you are welcome to send us brief emails and updates, but should not expect any immediate response. This also means that most longer emails would be better addressed in a session. If you aren't sure, just ask.
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13. I agree to assume any risk and liability as the result of my marriage coaching work with Brad & Tami Miller and my initials below confirm that I am working with them at my own request, and that I clearly understand the difference between marriage coaching and Psychotherapy services.
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14. I understand that I am exercising my own choice to work with Brad & Tami Miller. Furthermore, any life choices I make following our coaching sessions are my choices alone and any consequences of my choices, positive or negative, are mine alone, and that I will not legally hold Brad Miller or Tami Miller personally or professionally responsible for my coaching outcome and choices, nor will I hold Tandem Marriage or Restoration Counseling Service or any other person, organization, structure, assets, or affiliates associated personally or professionally with Brad Miller or Tami Miller legally or financially liable for the results of my choices and my work with Brad & Tami Miller.

I have had the opportunity to ask any questions and they have been answered clearly:

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We truly believe that when it comes to marriage, we all need mentors to help us get to the next level. We have had some great mentors too!

Thank you so much for trusting us to help with your marriage, your trust means the world to us.

Brad & Tami

P.S. Here is the scheduling and payment link. We will not be able to start marriage coaching until this deposit has been submitted.

Our Online Scheduling Calendar for Coaching

Use this private link (this web address) any time you would like to schedule a marriage coaching session with us. This link gives you direct access to our private calendar, we don't share this on the public portion of our site. Feel free to right-click on the blue button below and copy the link for future reference if you'd like or just save the email we sent you with this link. The blue button also serves as a back up just in case our calendar is not displaying properly on your browser.

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