FIRST - Read through this page to learn a bit more.
SECOND - Fill out the inquiry form below to see if we are a good fit for each other.
THIRD - Start imagining the ways you will enjoy a healthier marriage!
We are Brad & Tami Miller. We have been working together to help couples have better marriages for over 25 years. We have been married ourselves for over 35 years and have two adult children who are also married. We also have two grandchildren – so far.
It is very rare to find marriage coaching FROM a married couple. Rarer still is our unique and practical relational style, our combined mentoring/counseling experience, and our 35+ years of living out the kind of thriving marriage we can teach you to have. We are living proof that we help you to have a thriving marriage.
You will love working with us, and doing so is pretty simple EXCEPT for the the legal and technical issues surrounding Tami's licensure as a Marriage & Family Therapist. Rest assured, once we are on the same page with those considerations, we will be ready to help your marriage THRIVE!
A LITTLE MORE BACKGROUND:
Brad Miller has been involved in helping couples through many roles; as a coach, marriage mentor, pastoral teacher, conference speaker, marriage officiant, and author. Brad is known for his work and teaching in the areas of communication challenges, conflict resolution, healthy views about sex, parenting, and more.
Tami Miller, LMFT, is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the State of California. In her clinical role as a therapist, she specializes in working with married couples who need help recovering from an affair, overcoming sexual intimacy issues, communication challenges, conflict resolution, and family dynamics. Tami also shares several roles with Brad, most notably, conference speaker and author.
Together, we have over 25 years of experience in providing marriage coaching, life coaching, and business coaching to others. We can help you with whatever it is you are going through!
WHO WE COACH:
The best fit for our skillset and experience are couples who have been married 1-50 years, who consider themselves committed Christians, and don't want to settle for anything less then the life and marriage that God desires for them. From the simplest mariatal challenge (you keep having the same type of misunderstandings over and over) to much bigger challenges (like prior divorce or infidelity), we really can help. (By the way, we have worked with plenty of couples who are not Christians and we enjoy doing so, but there is a common language and a common motivation that we can tap into with Christian couples to really help them THRIVE!)
If you are a client who is new to marriage coaching, or a current therapy client transitioning from Psychotherapy to marriage coaching, please review the following information, fill out and submit the inquiry form below, and wait to hear back from us (usually a few days).
Please do not hesitate to ask any questions in the spaces provided because we desire this process to be both beneficial to your marriage and free from surprises. Again, we are more than happy to answer any questions you may have.
Your marriage is worth fighting for,
P.S. Feel free to skip ahead to the inquiry form near the bottom of the page if we have already answered your coaching vs. counseling questions.
We see marriage coaching as our way to work ourselves out of a job doing marriage counseling/therapy. It makes the most sense to us to be proactive when it comes to having a healthy marriage, this means that we can help you to make small, but important changes now to keep you from ending up in a therapist's office 5-10 years from now. The section below should help you to understand this important difference between marriage coaching and marriage counseling.
Marriage coaching is goal centered (example: Where do you want your marriage to be in 1 year, 5 years, etc?) and forward focused. Life/marriage coaches help their clients to focus on identifying and moving towards personal, relational and, at times, professional goals. Through focused coaching support, clients can learn healthy and helpful ways of navigating through relationship challenges so they can get on with creating a life that they can be excited about — a life that they have always dreamed about.
Marriage counseling, on the other hand, is typically more about identifying past issues and traumas and learning how to work through them or recover from them. Some people will spend years working on these past traumas so that they can be happier with themselves and happier with their spouse too. For example, when there has been a significant marital trauma, like infidelity, marriage counseling can be beneficial to uncover long-standing behavior patterns, coping mechanisms, and triggers. In marriage coaching, on the other hand, we can approach these traumas from a different angle and help couples to work together and help each other heal from these traumas and learn to establish healthier mindsets.
It is interesting for most people to learn that marriage coaching feels similar to counseling because both are rooted in the same clinical theory, often drawing on the work of Dr. Carl Rogers, Dr. Alfred Adler, Dr. Carl Jung, and more.
Rogers, Adler and Jung saw individuals as fully capable artists of their lives, and frequently involved their clients in goal setting and life planning. These are all tenets and approaches in today’s coaching methods.
Coaching takes the best of those approaches, along with some newer ones, such as:
If after our first session, or at some point during our marriage coaching work together, it is apparent that you would be better supported by Psychotherapy, and you are not located in California (the State Tami is licensed in as a Marriage and Family Therapist), we will do our best to provide you with clinical referrals in your area. If you are located within the State of California, and would prefer to work with Tami in her Psychotherapist's role, we can discuss this and, as long as it best supports what you hope to achieve in counseling, and falls under her scope of practice, she may be able to provide therapeutic support for you. If another Therapist would be a better fit for you, we will help you to understand that as well.
In our marriage coaching role, it is important to understand that while we may draw on particular aspects of coaching that are used in both disciplines (coaching and counseling), such as intentional listening, affirming, encouraging, reflecting, and supporting with empathy, we do not work in both roles at the same time with our marriage coaching clients. This would be considered operating in a “dual role.” Providing counseling and coaching at the same time is not something that clinical therapists can ethically engage in, nor should a life coach do so without proper clinical training and psychotherapy licensing.
Tami is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, and marriage coaching has aspects that are similar to counseling. Should we decide to work together, it is important for you to understand that our role and work as a marriage coaches is separate from Tami’s role as a Marriage & Family Therapist.
If you feel that marriage coaching is the type of support you currently want and need, we would invite you to submit the Marriage Coaching Inquiry form below. Because it is important for us to be able to offer exactly what you are in need of, the two of us will review the inquiry to determine if we are a good fit for you and your spouse.
We charge $200 per session hour regardless of who participates in that days coaching session. Since it is our specialty to work as a couple, with a couple, having all four of us in a coaching session will typically be the norm and the goal, although breakout sessions may be beneficial from time to time. Coaching sessions are 55 minutes per session hour and two session hours (or 110 minutes) can be scheduled as well.
Many counseling couples struggle to agree on whether they want their therapist to be male, with male understanding and insights, or female, with female understanding and insights. When you do your marriage coaching with us, your get both perspectives and the experience of both built-in and this benefits you and your marriage since we can make progress toward your goals faster.
My husband has known Brad and Tami since he was a teen. Both have guided him through many challenging stages in his early 20s. We didn’t have to think twice when we chose Brad to marry us, and both him and Tami to provide premarital counseling. Often times there is a stigma to have a perfect marriage, Brad and Tami taught us how to embrace the imperfections and make our marriage perfect for "team us." Through their guidance and real life experiences, we have learned the necessary building blocks to a successful marriage.
— Joey & Maloree Nigg
It's been hard for us to find credible marriage coaches. Most people talk a big game but can't deliver. Tandem Marriage is different. Brad and Tami are a real couple who have had real struggles. They overcame their struggles and did a great job and helping us with our struggles. I'd say they are the real deal. We received practical tools and practical help. We have never been happier or more content.
— Matt and Susie Nikitin
We met Brad & Tami through our church when we were in a rough spot. We thought we needed some communication tools, but they helped us to realize that when our conversations get heated is when we get into trouble. Brad & Tami taught us how to recognize what was happening and how to keep it from happening. We are forever grateful and happy again.
— Hunter McCall
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