Tandem Marriage Blog…

Please enjoy our blog where we give some of our best advice, helpful tips, and share the things we ponder. These articles are all intended to help you have a better and more fulfilling marriage.
PRO TIP: Read each article as a couple (about one per week) and discuss it together. 🔥


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Hope Is Always Available, Even If We Have to Search For It by Brad Miller

This past year has been crazy for us! I'm sure it has been crazy for you too! During the week before COVID interrupted and changed all of our lives, Tami and I were preparing for a Tandem Marriage mentoring weekend with another couple. We love these weekends since they are a perfect balance of bike-riding along the beach, mentoring a sweet couple, eating some amazing food, and laughing a great deal together. In the middle of packing for this trip, we received a difficult phone call from a longtime friend in Arizona…

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Resentment Will Kill Your Marriage, But You Can Save It If You Do The Right Thing by Brad Miller

Resentment is like a cancer. Resentment toward your spouse has no place in a healthy marriage — NONE! Even so, most of us have allowed little bits of this cancer-like resentment into our marriages from time to time. This article will help you understand where resentment comes from, where it will lead to if left unchecked, and how to eliminate it. Where Does Resentment Come From? Resentment is a result of unfulfilled expectations. In practical terms, this means that you had…

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How You Could be Poisoning Your Marriage Without Even Knowing it! by Brad Miller

At some point, you will wrestle with negative thoughts about your spouse that don’t seem to have the potential to kill your marriage, but they do. Now, I’m not talking about ax-murderer kinds of thoughts, which will ruin your marriage in an instant. No, I’m talking about the thoughts that will kill your marriage very, very slowly. What I’m talking about is just like feeding your marriage one small drop of poison every day. After a week of this poison, your marriage will start to feel sick, like something…

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Conversations That All Married Couples Should be Having by Brad Miller

For anyone who has been married for even a short time, you already know that there are conversations the two of you should be having – but you're not. We all avoid these conversations, each of us for varied reasons. Why do we do this? Why do we not have the conversations that we know we should have? The reasons are many and maybe you can relate to a few of these examples:

  • Maybe there has been more stress than normal in your home and you don't want to add one more thing.
  • Maybe, at the end of your day, you just don't have enough emotional reserve to…
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How You Can be a Hero to Your Spouse by

At some point, we all deal with conflict and hardship in our own marriages – and we all wish we could navigate these situations better. Tami and get a great deal of feedback and questions from spouses who wish they could learn to work through these challenging issues in a healthier way than they currently do. We understand completely which is precisely why we talk about conflict so much and why I am going to share a new idea with you today. To be fair, this is not new to me (Brad) since I have been working on this idea for many years, but it will likely be…

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What Started Out as a Date Night, Ended in a Lesson About Infidelity by Brad Miller

Tami and I tried out a new restaurant the other night. In all honesty, the food was just ok. And since we are being honest, let me tell you what was going on at the table next to ours. Right next to us was a smartly-dressed forty-something couple having a glass wine and some appetizers. When we first sat down, I assumed this was a husband and wife enjoying a date night out on the town, sans kiddos. Since Tami and I just sat down, we were busy trying to get ourselves situated. We were looking at the menu to see…

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Your Words Have More Power Than You Think by Brad Miller

When was the last time that you were guilty of taking words, with all of their power and meaning, for granted? If most of us are honest with our answer to this question, we would probably answer: "today," "yesterday," or "this week." Why is this so? Let's start this with a little exercise to bring this into clearer focus. The next time you watch a movie or TV show, ask yourself this question, "How were words used to build someone up and make a difference or how were words used to…

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How Our Passion For Marriage Can Help You in Yours by Brad Miller

Tami and I spend a great deal of time helping others with their marriages. Just as important, if not more so, we spend both the time and energy working out the rough spots and differences in our own marriage too. We all have rough spots, right? Furthermore, we take the extra step required to understand if those same helpful principles we use in our own marriage can apply to the marriages of others as well. Why do we take this extra step? Why would we do this extra work? What follows is…

  • marriage vows are more important than most people realize
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There is More Power in a Marriage Vow Than You Realize - PART 2 by Brad Miller

What you and I choose to believe about marriage is wrapped up in how we view The Vow. When I say, “The Vow,” I am referring to the holy (set apart for a purpose) and sacred (connected to God) commitment that was made (or will be made) on your wedding day. This is a promise, a covenant, and a pledge between a husband and a wife and the God who breathed life into them. How you respond to the promise you made will determine who you are – whether you…

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There is More Power in a Marriage Vow Than You Realize - PART 1 by Brad Miller

Lately, I have spent a fair amount of time really trying to parse out the reasons why marriage vows are so powerful. To be fair, the reasons could fill the entire chapter of a book, if not the whole book itself. Nonetheless, I am going to do my best to merely give some of the highlights here. Please keep in mind that while it is not my intent to talk down to those who are not married (or not yet!), it's difficult to understand some of the benefits of marriage without contrasting them to…

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